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It's time to tell my parents

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by timo, Apr 28, 2012.

  1. timo

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    Support and advice, yes, but mostly venting my thoughts... just to warn you, long rant is super long

    Tomorrow I'll be visiting my parents for the first time in over 2 months. I'll be staying a few days and decided that I'm not going back to my own place before I've come out to them. I'm ready to tell them and I want them to know. But I don't really know what to say. It's highly unlikely my parents will ask or say something to which I can respond with telling them I'm gay. So I need to start the conversation myself. In my mind I've thought of saying something like this:
    From there on I'll see where it goes. The "into guys" thing might sound weird but makes perfect sense in Dutch. I'm not using the word gay/homo/whatever cause, even though I'm fine with typing it, I don't feel comfortable saying that out loud yet.

    And this is where the dear-EC-I-need-your-support-and-advice-part starts :icon_bigg
    I want to keep this as short as possible, get the message out and then let them ask whatever they want to know. But I feel like this is too short and I'm afraid I'm leaving some important stuff out. Any things I should add?
    Also. I think about telling my mom first when my dad's at work, then in the evening tell my dad. Good idea or should I tell them both at the same time? How did you guys and girls do it? :slight_smile:

    I don't know why I'm making this into a way bigger deal than it actually is. They'll probably accept it. One of my cousins is gay, also two of my parents' friends are a gay couple. So they definitely don't have a 'problem' with gay people, but hearing it from your son might be something different :/

    Again sorry for the long rant but I needed to clear my mind.
     
  2. Sayu

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    Maybe you should say that it isn't a phase and that you've felt this way for a long time :slight_smile:

    I wish you luck! :slight_smile:
     
  3. Mercy

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    Same here Be strong
     
  4. Rach

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    I wish you the best of luck, if you haven't told them yet and if you have then I hope that it went well for you :grin: x