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I think I finally figured it out... Maybe...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by cassiem, Apr 28, 2012.

  1. cassiem

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    So I came out as a bisexual last year... But after two failed relationships where I went from liking the girl to not liking her in the space of minutes, I realised I'm...

    A heteroromantic bisexual!

    It's not quite true, because I have liked girls in the past, but the way I feel about them is so different and... less... Then the way I feel about guys.

    Of course, if I met a girl and liked her for sure then I'd start dating her. But the two girls I've dated so far... As I said, I had a weird bipolar thing going on with my feelings for them.

    Still, i feel better now (!)
     
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    sexuality is an odd thing isn't it? xD never 100 percent one way or another! it's good that you found out exactly what you were :3 just remember, always go with your heart and you'll be just fine :3
     
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    I am kind of confused what that means. It kind of sounds like asexuality vocabulary that I am not familiar with. Does it mean you find the idea of sex with men and women exciting, but you could probably only really date or have a long term relationship with men?
     
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    Romantic attractions are the classic boyfriend/girlfriend/whateverfriend-esque stuff, while sexual attractions are more about physical urges, if I understand correctly.

    She probably is attracted to both genders sexually, but only really wants romantic relationships and is romantically attracted to boys.
     
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    You are correct, TheGreyMan.

    And yeah, I find mainly asexuals use it- but hey, it describes my situation perfectly, so why not?
     
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    Well hey, I think it's an interesting vocabulary, because it gives us a better way of explaining some of the queerness people have with "why do I love hanging with girls, and I kinda like wanna be romantic, but I only really like like guys??"
     
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    It also is good for when you're not sexually attracted to a gender but could end up with them via emotional attachment. I think there's an entirely different term for that though... Demisexuality?
     
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    Yes, hells yes. Also, guess what? Homoromantic heterosexual males. Ya that's right, bromance now has a real academic term.
     
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    :eusa_clap:eusa_clap:eusa_clap
     
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    Hm. Aren't the 'bromantic' types generally biromantic though?

    Edit: Oh god. Sorry for derailing your thread, Cassie.
     
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    ahhaha don't worry, i'm quite enjoying reading this :slight_smile:
     
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    Well it all works out, then!