Cis-gendered people: Would you, or have you dated transpeople?

Haven't dated anyone.
I would be fine dating someone who was transgender.
Why or why not, interesting question. I'm honestly not sure, just no real reason not to?

 

I would. I had a bit of a crush on one at one point.

 

yeah i would if one struck my fancy. My reason? well.. they're human and I'm human and we both need love. simple. haha

 

I guess it depends. I mean... I'm physically attracted to the male body... I don't know. It's complicated I guess, but probably not. I don't mean that to be offensive or rude, but I wouldn't want to waste either of our time, y'know? As to why, I just don't know if I would be comfortable or completely understanding of what they would be going through so they'd be difficult to date... I guess??

 

When I was going to school, I found a transman who I thought was extremely attractive, but I think he was het and in a relationship.

Honestly though, as a cis person I don't know how to deal with, and I am sometimes afraid to even ask about sexual play with the body of a transperson when how you play with zir body doesn't match zer self-conception. Deaf Not Blind has said in no uncertain terms that he thinks it's really problematic.

So I guess the answer is yes, I would be open to dating a transperson for who ze is. However, I don't know how to respect everyone who is trans while balancing my sexual desire.

 

If I fall in love with them or want to pursue them, why not? I'm advocate of free love.

 

I would date a trans* person, but I don't know whether I'd be able to have sex with a transman who was pre-op or a transwoman who was post-op. I'm not attracted a numinous quality of "maleness" I'm attracted to the male form.

 

(Obviously assuming I was single and all that) I would but that may be because I don't care about gender. When things get anywhere close to sexual, I would treat it like any other relationship. I'd make sure to see what they're comfortable with before I did anything

 

I've often worried about this. I'm afraid to date men while I'm pre-op because I'm so afraid of how they will see me naked (and I really like sex, which makes this even more complicated). I'm also really worried about after I have my chest totally reduced when I pursue other men, if they'll react negatively about my genitalia. This also brings about the question of how to have sex with other guys in the first place. But I'm digressing. I'm just really interested in this thread.

 

Absolutely. Trans people are, amongst other great things, very interesting. I would love to know a trans person, let alone date one. I made this thread a long time ago. Would be great to date either an MtF or an FtM

 

Meanwhile, I'm not necessarily attracted to the male form, but to a numinous quality of maleness
For the crushes I had, it did seem kind of essential to have the feeling I was talking to a guy. Even the girls I had semi-crushes on all were well in touch with their male sides.

That's just a preference, though. I like to think I'm open to dating anyone. It just so happens that none of the people I ever fell for were women.

In any case, I am definitely not opposed to the idea of dating a transperson. Due to the above, I would probably be more likely to date someone who was FtM than someone who was MtF, but I have no exclusives. If they're awesome, I'm open to the idea!

 

Honestly? If they're still in transition I'd probably be very worried about whether or not the relationship would still work after the transition is complete...

Other than that it would've been stupid of me to not to, considering I'm not quite sure I'm really all that 100% cisgendered myself...

 

Have I actually dated a transman before? No.
Would I consider dating a transman? Yes.

I've seen transmen I've found incredibly sexy and attractive. I would have no problem getting involved with them.

Of course, it's like any other relationship. There has to be mutual attraction, not just in physical terms, but in personality and emotional terms as well.

The big issue, of course, is going to be sex. Does he intend to have reassignment surgery? Is he comfortable in his own body? Not being comfortable in his own skin is going to be a major issue for me, but this would be an issue for any relationship I would enter into and is not specific to transmen.

I would have no problem with it if he decided not to have reassignment surgery. Having a penis doesn't make someone a man, and having a vagina doesn't make someone a woman. It wouldn't be an issue sexually either, provided he was completely comfortable with his body.

I've yet to meet a transman that I didn't emotionally identify as a male. By that I mean, he -FELT- like a man to me. This has been regardless of whether or not I found him attractive or not. Similarly, I really haven't met a transwoman who I didn't emotionally identify as a female.

So, if a transwoman decided to transition as far as she could, but decide to forgo sex reassignment surgery - it wouldn't make much difference to me. She would still FEEL like a woman to me, it wouldn't matter that she had a penis. I'm a man, and I'm only interested in men. Similarly, when it comes to transmen if he had a vagina instead of a penis, that wouldn't bother me, because I'd STILL FEEL like he was a man.

This may seem weird to some people. Someone might even wonder if I was secretly bisexual and repressing or something. No. I'm using my words quite literally: he feels like a man to me. Emotionally. I'm identifying him as a man. The shape or type of genitalia doesn't factor into it.

 

Have i? No.
Would i? Sure
It depends entirely on the person, their personality, the usual dating stuff.
If they were currently going through the surgery stage it might be a little odd, though knowing me id find it fascinating lol

 

Yeah, I'm pretty sure I would.

 

Anytime!

 

I would. Even though I'm not super girly, but I'm pretty feminine, so I think I qualify as cisgendered. I feel like, because I'm bi (you know, sort of), I would probably really like dating a biologically-female transgender.

 

I think I would. Mainly I like it when someone acts natural, so not at all impossible.