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I would say you should do whatever you feel like doing to be happy. If you feel like dating a woman you may just try and see how it developes. It has to be the right thing for you, not for anyone else.

 

When i finaly admitted it to myself i started bawling it may be pretty hard to relize at first but now im 100% happy with my girlfriend goodluck! If you have any questions feel free to write on my wall

 

Do whatever feels natural to you when it comes to who your attracted to. Don't be confused if you start to look at girls and find them attractive, although it might feel weird to you its still totally normal.
As for knowing if another girl is a lesbian there's no real way of telling really. But i know i always look for signs in their appearance (hair, piercings, clothes.) not that it will make them a lesbian but you can sometimes tell. Secondly their body language is sometimes a give away sign.
If you think she might be a lesbian talk to her, see how she react when you talk to her. She might try to bring up sexuality to see if your l lesbian, or you might bring it up in a subtle way. Her immediate reaction should tell you. Or you could just ask if your bold enough to, i wouldn't personally though.
Hope that helped

 

your welcome

 

Part of being queer is precisely that you're not "supposed" to feel any particular way. What does liking women feel like to you??? Whatever that feeling is, it's probably just fine!

 

If you are sexually attracted to women, that's how you know. You can have emotional attraction for both sexs but your primary orientation is usually defined by what sex arouses you. If men don't arouse you in the slightest and women do, then you're at the least not straight.

For instance, I am very attracted to men, every inch of the male body attracts me. Women absolutely repulse me, I can lose an erection just thinking of a woman.

 

Well this may be awkward and embarassing but may I suggest watching 2 types of porn - not for pleasure but to help you see for yourself.

Lesbian porn and gay porn, not straight porn as even I can get aroused by that, but only because my eyes are drawn to the man.

This is a pretty solid way of testing your orientation, just don't try to hold back, don't try to make yourself get aroused by one or not the other, or not get aroused by one or the other. Just let what happens happen and your answer will probably be seen there.

What you are saying doesn't define your sexuality really. I mean, I would like to be with a woman as I really love the emotional side, which you don't really get with a lot of guys, but I just cannot be sexually attracted to a woman.

All the best.

 

Hey another option is to just sit in a cafe or something and watch people go by and see who you become more drawn to, try not to have any preconcieved ideas about who you are going to like more and just see what happens.

 

That is very tricky, unless you are at an LGBT group then I would assume straight unless told otherwise, the more you study peoples mannerisms the more chance you have of picking out the non straight people but its still only guessing. In time the more confident you get in your own skin and with your own sexuality and the more out you are the more likely other people are to come out to you. Have you tried any LGBT groups or online meet ups in your area?

 

Does she have spikey hair and a nose ring? Sorry, sterotype jokes over.

The only way to tell is to ask them, but just assume everyone is straight until told otherwise (as mentioned above), otherwise you may get attached to a straight person, and that is a predicament pretty much all gays go through and it is most certaintly not a pleasant one.

All the best.

 

Well you dont have to ask them outright, you check their opinions on LGBT matters, you can ask about what kind of guys/girls they are into and just see what they say. I think you should work on coming out to people and telling them you are questioning, that way people that are not straight themselves are more likely to tell you or talk to you about those things.