AH, ughh, agfhsf.

Well, being as there is OVER-WHELMING evidence to its existence, plus you have first-hand account of its existence, you should be able to re-assure your mother. Try to find a lot of scientific articles and things over bisexuality and also the other orientation variants such as pansexuality and give them to your mother.

Hope this helps.

 

Hook up with a bunch of dudes and betties alike, and when you're ready to come out to your mom, just be like, "no, mom, you don't understand. here's a list of sexy and many-gendered people i've made out with."

...okay, that might not work. but just remember that people's views change when they realize someone they know- especially a family member- is a member of a particular group. it might take a while for your mom to come around, but i bet she will eventually.

and it's different when you realize that being gay or bisexual is something real and definitive and YOU, and not just something you can support in the abstract. even though nothing's different, everything is suddenly different. going through those feelings is tough but necessary. (i am still doing it, soooo many emooootions.)

 

I can understand I was always supportive of LGBT issues but when it came to trying to accept myself that was totally different.

Have you come out to your Mum or do you just know about her views on bisexuality already.

 

Your mother doesn't need to believe in bisexuality, how can you not believe in something that is standing right in front of you? As long as you know who you are, that's all that matters. Maybe if you explain to her how you feel fully, she could understand. Often people don't believe in bisexuality because they don't know the facts.

 

So how would you like things to move on from here? What would you like to happen? Do you want to come out to more people?

 

I dont think it sounds funny at all I think the majority of people here on EC will admit there was a time when they felt the same thing. I know I certainly had a time like that.

Would you think about going to some sort of LGBT group? Are you friends supportive.

If you imagine girls (can be real people, celebrities or imaginary people), how does it feel? Can you imagine yourself getting close to a girl, holding a girl or being held by a girl? You dont have to answer these questions on this thread but I would say they are things to think about.

 

I actually found it a little bit spooky reading your original post Piratealisonn. Mainly because of how closely it echoes where I'm at myself.

I'm also very open minded, around half of my best friends are gay and I've been to LGBT events before to support them. I've just started realising that I'm probably not straight and I'm finding it surprisingly difficult to accept that. :rolle: It's almost laughable; I've been to so many LGBT events with my friends and was nothing but relaxed, but the first time I went on my own as questioning I was actually shaking a wee bit.

I'm probably not going to be able to explain this right, but here goes:
I think it's easier when you are supporting your friends because there's less involved from you, you don't have to put yourself out there as much, and even if it's a really close friend or family member you're going to be less emotionally involved.
It's not that you have any problem with the idea of being gay or bi, you're clearly not homophobic, but suddenly you have to think of things like telling people and wondering how people will react. And maybe if you have friends who you support and who've been out for a while it feels like you should have already figured this stuff out?
If so, don't worry, take your time, I'm sure we'll BOTH get there.

I know what you mean about being sure before you tell people - it's difficult to come out to people just as confused. Although you do seem a bit surer than me; in your profile you've written bi, so if you want to come out maybe you could just tell people that you're not straight?

 

Coming out to people is scary and awkward but it does get easier the more you do it, not that im suggesting you tell more people if you dont feel ready.

Its a shame there is no LGBT group at your school or in your area as it limits your options. Im not saying immediately but do you think your best friend would be supportive enough to go to a gay bar with you?

 

Well I would imagine if they are planning on visiting a gay club it could be that they are also not straight, but at the very least it should mean that they are accepting and supportive of gay rights.

 

Yeah I didnt mean to say they were definitely not straight. I think it could come as a shock if its one of their own but I think they would be supportive. I suppose you could try and test the water.

 

You are very welcome. No rush, you will know when the time is right.

 

There is a whole lot of negativity about bisexuality from queer and straight communities. And some people really just are beyond convincing. Even my mother who has a gay brother she loves dearly and mislabeled me gay a couple of times in front of her friends. For some reason, it's a hard thing for people to understand.

Honestly, I think some people just aren't making an effort.

But if you know in your heart that you're bisexual, you totes are. And of course throughout your life with different partners, it will become clear to those you know.

Good luck!

 

Is bisexual pornography not evidence of the existence of bisexuality? Rent her some bi porn.