(This isn't anything about LGBT anything) Just friendship.

There's a girl I've been friends with since kindergarten. We haven't gone to the same school in a long time, but we still stay in touch and I still consider her my best friend, and she's said the same of me.

Lately, however, I feel really forgotten about. She's a very social being, unlike myself, and always seems to have plans with friends (most/all of whom I know and like). I never find out about these plans unless I call her recently before or during. A lot of the time I only find out that they happened afterwards. She never excludes me from them, as in telling me I can't come or anything, but I'm never invited unless it's to big things like her birthday party.

I sent her a message about this, and she seemed to completely understand, and apologized, etc.

Today I went to somewhere her parents were working to see her along with my girlfriend and some other people, and I assumed she'd be there. I didn't say I was coming, because usually she's just always there. She actually was somewhere else with friends (who she'd invited) where I couldn't go that day. I called her with no answer, and her dad texted her. I'm not sure if he said I was there, but I'm assuming he did. She never came or called back. I was there for about 2 and a half hours. My girlfriend did come, but when she did I had to leave soon. I hung out with my friend's parents and my dad was there, so it wasn't like it was a waste of time.


I just felt so lonely and ignored and forgotten. I really thought that after I wrote her she would invite me to things and make more of an effort to see me, but... no? Any advice, thoughts, opinions on this?

Thank you.:icon_sad:

 

I never plan anything with anyone. I'm always either in classes or doing homework or practicing things or working. I kind of fail at having a social life. I just don't have time to plan things because I have things to do every day of the week. Probably a large part of the problem... She may just expect that I can't do anything.
It's weird, I don't feel like we really have any other type of disconnect besides this.

---------- Post added 19th May 2012 at 08:02 PM ----------

I'm horrible about planning things with other people, I'm really busy. I only try to see other people if they communicate an interest in seeing me. I will try to talk to her in person, thank you. When it's summer I'll hopefully be able to plan things with her. Or anyone, for that matter. *sigh" Why are social lives so much harder to maintain than any other aspects of things? Like school. And books. Even circus arts. *facepalm* People are confusing. Maybe I'm just socially inept. Sorry, this isn't even on topic. I'm just getting uselessness on my keyboard. Thank you, it is helpful advice.