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Hey, I'm here.

What d'ya want to talk about?

 

I understood the feeling.

I've known I was gay since I was six years old. Only recently have I been out to a few people who I can talk to about it. It's a terrible feeling of entrapment, loneliness and just plain lack of belonging. You feel isolated and doomed.

It sucks and it's great to have someone who you can say things to. That's what EC is here for

 

It's very hard. Facing the truth. If someone asked me, I'm not even sure if I'd be able to be honest. I mean I'm in a similar situation with this guy I really like and all of these mixed signals drive me insane.

Also yeah, I don't understand why everyone's obsessed with one night stands. Personally I find them to be worthless and full of regret and depression.

 

I've got no idea of his orientation besides he's dated girls before.

God I just am like so confused though. It's really weird how things are going.

But I'm sure you'll find someone great! Especially as an adult and you don't have to worry about being forced to be with people you don't know who judge you. (aka school.)(you have a job so I'm gonna guess you're 18+.)

 

Being gay's never easy and unfortunately, in the last 500 years or so, we've regressed and progressed alike. Just remember - Love and companionship in all of its forms have existed since the dawn of time. Do not ever feel wrong due to the fact that a few ignorant members of a race that's only existed for a mere 2.5 million years think that one form of love is wrong and another right.

It's hard to get used to it. Society has tailored us to think heterosexuality is the only option and thankfully, it's changed. But we still face prejudice and those who do not understand. We ourselves often develop internalized homophobia out of the sheer hatred that develops for our own persons and it is unfortunate.

Accepting yourself may take awhile, but it will happen. You're not wrong.

 

I've seen it, yeah. Got to me as well.

Things you experience as a child can have negative influences. Maybe you could get an LGBT-therapist or something to help you? Of course I'm always open to speak to you but I doubt I'd be as helpful.

 

hey we are here to talk
I read all of your conversation, first there something that I want to ask, why the idea of two guys sleeping together really repulses you? look, being gay is not only about sex, it's about all the romantic feelings, it's about love and passion. yes we don't fit into rusty stereotypes that media and society dictate us, but who cares, we find love in someone of same gender and that's all.

 

your welcome
well there are great deal of facts and observation that shows homosexual activities are common in animal kingdom too, just search it, you will find a huge amount of information in that area. so there is nothing to prove what you said, " My mind says the human body wasn't designed to be used that one". yes we are a minority and yes we don't fit in stereotypes, but we are absolutely normal.

 

I'm here if you want to talk as well.

Well, when you said it's all psychology, that's it... it might be that the whole idea of accepting yourself, fully, is so big that you're almost scared of it. Have you tried joining any GSA or LGBT-related organization? That's a great way to get more comfortable with yourself.

I had, and still have, problems accepting myself, and I don't think they will end until I actually enter a relationship with a girl (I'm bio female) and convince myself that everything will be fine.

 

This is really interesting. I am also the same way, I am very uncomfortable with thinking about sleeping with a woman. I'm perfectly happy hugging and other stuff. In high school all my friends were experimenting and I just didn't want to. It was kind of like how kids were smoking weed and I just didn't think it was for me. Now I'm questioning again, but mainly because I have an emotional attachment to women. I also have ocd. When my anxiety acts up I lose attraction for men, like butterflies and such. I just can't stop thinking I'm in denial or something.

 

Hey there are always people here on EC if you want to chat, most of us have been in the situation you are in at some point.

 

Dude, you sound like me. Like, I'm a total flag waving filthy liberal and proud and all "gays are normal and cool people!" but I just couldn't come to terms with it myself until just today, actually.

So, that's the path I took, but you're still questioning, right? So you could end up swinging the other way which is totally cool too. It's totally natural to question your sexuality especially when we live in the Age of Information and every imaginable gender identity or orientation is out there for you to explore and figure yourself out with. I really could not have figured myself out without the internet.

Isn't technology in the modern era majorly rad?