bicurious or lesbian?

oh wow.
idk.
wish i could help girl.
yeah, pregnants women sure have mood swings. maybe a year after your baby is out you will be thinking clearer.

um, im kinda a guy, i am ftm. :/
so i like emotionally i guess men, as i don't have words for it, but when i am talking with one or a group of men, i am so feeling at ease and just start accidentally being my true boyish self...so much i can get caught up in it, and almost out myself.
but women i have been around most always, and i try to understand them and get along and only had luck with friendships with a few out of thousands. i am too weird to be accepted as one of them i guess, and honestly the way many of them think in this area kinda is weird to me too, just i don't think the way they do about stuff. so i guess that means emotionally i not care about them??
but as far as relationship, dating, marrying, sex...hands down i want a gf! i am straight really, i like the whole thing about them.
never could be boy crazy myself, but i guess i had crushes on girls and didn't label it that way...i just followed them everywhere and begged them to be my friend.
i hope you can just live through the pregnancy okay, and then see where you are afterwards.
idk if that helps at all.

 

Well it seems to me like you could be a bit bicurious. I wouldn't say you're a lesbian because you say you enjoy sex with men. Many women, straight women even, feel more emotionally connected with women, but that does not make them gay.
Is your marriage stable? If not you may just be bored or looking for something new?
Sorry I am not much help but I wish you the best of luck. (*hug*)

 

i betcha its a combo of OCD and your pregnancy hormones!
you must really feel weird.
i had a friend was pregnant asked her about it, so strange.

 

I agree with Julia. You sound more like you're bicurious or maybe even bisexual. Have you ever spoken to your husband about having an open relationship? It might give you some excitement or the chance to explore these feelings. Also, do you have a therapist for your ocd and anxiety issues? That might help with your marriage if you haven't done so already.

 

Now was it not you that told me to relax and not label myself! Listen I understand how you feel right now. What makes a person gay, bisexual, heterosexual if the lines today seem to be merging and moving away from the rigid polar orientation fields society has created. Maybe you are bisexual, maybe you are a bisexual that ranks 1-2 on the Kinsey scale. Relax. Something tells me that you are resorting to your confusion on sexuality because there seems to be something in the marriage that is not providing you with the most emotionally. Do you have close girlfriends you can confide in, perhaps you need a network of closer friends and please stay with your therapist. I am going to one as well. PLEASE RELAX, there is a little one in the oven that needs you to stay calm. I think things will and shall work out for the very best.

 

You're bi. The attraction to a man is your female hormones.

 

i still disagree with the womenfolk, not suprizing. i think it is anxiety, hormones, and OCD. i don't have OCD but know of others who do...and your talk sounds like them. if ya had thoughts of things you feared most: child molester, murderer...i bet gay/lesbian was in your subconscious too. i am glad you have a therapist, but what about a psychiatrist? they can make sure if you need any meds you get them, and some are safe when pregnant. i care. be safe. and don't just go out and fool around while you are in this state. ok?

 

There is no such thing as a lesbian who likes men and not women. That is in complete conflict with the definition of the word. The idea that you might be one is therefore very likely to be the result of mental illness, in my non-expert opinion.

It's possible to be a Lesbian, capital L, who likes men and not women, but in that case you must be a resident of Lesbos. It would not mean you were gay.

I am a lesbian, and I am confused as to why you think you are gay. You seem to like men. I don't agree with Christian ex-gay "therapists" very frequently.

OCD medication would not have the effect of altering your sexual orientation. There is no medication known to alter people's sexual orientation. If there were, I am sure it would be heavily promoted and we would all know the name of it.

Given your mental health history, I strongly recommend that you consult a psychologist who has experience with OCD and with LGBT people.

If I had to hazard a guess, it would be that you are bisexual but on the straight side, and that your OCD has locked onto your occasional same-sex feelings as a convenient thing for you to torture yourself with.

 

Have you told your husband about it?

A shocking number of men don't actually mind their wives experimenting with women. Sex with women just isn't taken as seriously as sex with men, and they think it's hot. He might not mind. (I have several "straight" or bisexual friends who have arrangements with their husbands.)

I don't think this is a long term solution, but it might take the pressure off. You might even stop wanting to so much if it was ok with him--this might be partly an unconscious attempt to sabotage the relationship on your part, because you have difficulty being close to people.

(Most bisexuals are content with one partner, so if you are having strong urges to cheat it is probably for some other reason.)

If you do experiment (with your husband's okay) try to find another bisexual woman in the same situation, rather than making the lesbians crazy.

 

As I have mentally ill family members, and know others, I agree that. This is why NOT psychologist, but psychiatrist is essential. A therapist can do very little to help, and the latter has the most flexibility to help. Find a good one. They really care.

 

yep, I'm sorry you feel like that.
i wish there were a way through therapy or medication that you could calm yourself and be able to see the future can be bright.
for anyone who is not suffering in that way, my best advice is for both the man and woman to work hard equally to make a long term happen.
excitement wears off, but the replacement is not bad, just different, it is a peace knowing you trust them and they trust you, and stability has a very deep love aspect in it you never will know if you just want the 1st time thrill.
my best regards to you all.

 

Hi there again curious lady. I just wanted to drop a note to let.you know that you will be fine and I do believe that you are too worried about bein gay because you are not. We are similiar and different. We both have anxiety over our sexual identity, but for me I think I am lesbian. Here is why. Yes I watched porn as a young woman, child even and my body responded more to g/g porn. I certainly was attracted to men and yes I had sex with them as well, but things have changed in the past year. My attraction to men is gone, I look at men and nothing I mean nothing. My heart feels numb because there is no emotional drive to pursue a man. I have lived on the internet reading about late.in life lesbians, meredith Baxter, Kelly mcgillis, raven Symons, Kat Cora, I have become phrased with the l word. I have joined ********** to meet women and craigslist. Part of my mind tells me that I need to explore and experiment, but no I think this is the beginning of my life as a lesbian. I only notice women and I get weird vibes in my belly. I truly believe that my heterosexual side is dead and I have to accept.it and live with it. I have always had fantasies here and there of woman and it may be my way of feeling bold and rebellious, however if that connection with men shrivels up then perhaps I was just acting heterosexual. I have so much work to do! I saw a woman in the airport and I thought wow, I loved her outfit, her confidence, her hair, and I was curious about her. To me its another sign that yes, I am definitely gay and when I can become more confident and stop giving off weird vibes then I can move forward. Take care becuase I think you will be ok. Sorry for the typos because I am.using my phone.