So here is my dilemma. I have this friend, and we are actually best friends. I find him quite attractive, but he doesn't know that. Anyway, we have always been very close and we never did anything unusual until recently. One day he was at my house and we were watching a movie when he asked me to lay my head on this chest; thinking nothing of it, I obliged. Afterwards, he started rubbing my back. Again, I thought nothing of it. I then proceeded to rubbing his stomach and eventually sticking my hand under his shirt and rubbing his chest/upper body; he didn't flinch or react, so I take it he was okay with it. After that day, it became kind of habitual, except for the fact that we switched who laid on whom. Anyway, the part that really confuses me is this. One day, when I was laying on him. He asked me to massage his leg, since he had been working out the day before and was rather sore. I did so and massaged his legs, but when I got to his upper thigh I accidently went under his short and boxers and touched his balls. I made a small move on him to see what he would do if I actually full out touched him. After a while he got hard, he moved my hand away, and looked a little embarrassed. We continued to watch the movie. A while later I did the same thing, but this time when he got hard he kind of just let it happen. Now, I want to know what this mean? He is always saying that he straight and loves pussy. Also, back when we first met I asked him what he thought about homosexual activity and he said he didn't care, but would never engage in it and would never let anyone do it to him. But then he goes and lets me do that? Does it mean he is gay/confused/bi? Or just okay with other guys touching him? What do I do? P.s. He doesn't know that I am bi...
I don't have much experience when it comes to this sort of thing, so keep that in mind. However, I can see two likely scenarios here. 1) Your friend wasn't sure how to react, and so settled on the strategy of just letting you do whatever until you stopped, or 2) your friend liked what you were doing but wasn't quite ready to admit it. Either way he wasn't so put off that he insisted on you stopping. So what should you do? If I were in your shoes, then the next time you are together like that again (assuming that happens) then I would consider saying something along the lines of, "Sorry if I went too far last time. Or not far enough? I didn't mean to do anything to make you feel uncomfortable." I would think that would open up a window to discuss what happened, and what boundaries should be kept in mind in the future.
I would say that he isn't to straight. Straight men don't normally cuddle with other men on a normal basis. I'm kinda guessing that he is more on the experimental side and rather nervious. If he really didn't want you touching him though, you would be able to tell. To me it seems like harmless fun. Both of you get to explore your sexualties together.
Curious, at a minimum. What are your ages? The massage part is a little more acceptable between very secure straight men - I've straight friends who've rubbed shoulders, popped backs, crap like that - not legs and stomachs though. The fact he let you would usually mean he's very secure...but...unless in the experimental years of youth, I can't imagine a 100% straight guy letting anybody play with his junk.
God, where do people meet these kind of friends, I want one! On a serious note, it definitely highlights that he is probably a little curious at the very least.