so a straight girl wants to move in for a month...next weekend. she's not my type, i won't hit on her, hormones i will keep in check no matter what. but...she thinks of me as a straight...but weird...girl. her bf had told her he thinks I'm gay, but i think i got her to believe not so. she has seen me dressed slightly tomboy, but has not seen since i started coming out. um...cant exactly be watching porn masturbating in the same room with my dick on! so, how can i for one to 2 months go back inside the closet? she really needs a place to crash...i gotta help my buddies. I'm just not able to tell her after 2 years I've known her that I'm starting to transition into manhood! help?:help:
It would be good for you to tell her if you can bring yourself to do it. I mean, you are good enough friends that you are letting her stay at your place. I don't know, I guess my main advice about going back into the closet is not to do it. Keeping secrets makes you feel more ashamed; speaking the truth about yourself and your life relieves your shame. So, I think you should consider coming out to her. (She's gotta help her buddies, too, right?) Plus, you were planning on going to Pride, and it would bite if this killed your first Pride experience. So, maybe instead of asking how to go back into the closet, you should be asking, "how do I come out to this friend of mine who I've known for two years?" You could write her a letter maybe. Would that help?
to come out to her is to be all the way out. I'm sure she will tell all our mutual friend, she likes juicy gossip. her eyeys will light up an onto vp she will go...guess why * don't date? im scared of being outed.
You can always just tell her that she can't tell anybody. Most friends, LGBT or not, understand that this sort of secret is a secret to be kept, and if she's truly your friend and has been your friend for a long time (which you said she has), I think you'll be okay. I've had to deal with this while coming out too -- the ones who love all the juicy gossip. I told them to keep their mouth shut and they never repeated a word I said. Good luck. xx
really? i maybe test her on that...see if something else i told her she told her bf or any mutual friends. oh dear...i could actually need to tell her I'm a boy. oh gee. my mom and her will be living here same time for at least one week, i not tell mom. oh gee. i had planned on hiding it here at least until I'm out in DC, after i see a therapist to confirm this. I'm very careful, like lists, and don't like spontaneous jumping to conclusions...i prefer logical slow careful. boy this experience of coming out so far has been most spontaneous stuff i ever done in my life! scares the dickn outta me!
Well, "the best laid plans of mice and men often go awry" (if I'm quoting that properly) Really though, it's really hard to plan out (in full detail) how to come out to someone, because often people's reactions are far different than what we expect. And sometimes you just need to take a leap of faith and jump into it headfirst to get it done. That push might just be all you need to tell her. If her and your mom are going to be around for a week at the beginning, maybe you could wait until after that when things settle down a bit?
she wants to move in about a week or two from now, my mom will 1st of august. i move out august 20th, if all goes as planned.
