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Is hyper-horniness and porn causing a shift in sexual tastes?

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  1. jsmurf

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    For the longest time I could remember, I was strictly attracted to skinny smooth twinks aged 18-22. For the last few months I've been inordinately horny.. Like I can't get sex off my mind, although I'm a virgin (and sex-starved one at that, lol)


    I'm still mainly into the college boy genre when it comes to porn, but I've begun to get pretty turned on by guys in their late 20's too, and sometimes even into early 30's.. Still don't like muscular hulks, but a little definition in the abs/pecs and arms in the older 30-year-old guys gets my attention in porn or when im glancing around at the gym. I think it might all be linked to the fact that lately I've been more horny than when I was even a teen.


    What is happening? Are my sexual tastes expanding because ive been sex-deprived for so long?

    ---------- Post added 1st Jun 2012 at 11:04 AM ----------

    What's more is that I used to think of myself as an exclusive top, but now i occasionally fancy myself as a submissive bottom (even though ive never even stimulated myself anally) when im imagining myself with 30 year old well-endowed smooth guys...
     
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  2. Owen

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    I can't tell you why it's happening, but I can tell you that it's not unusual. I had a similar thing happen to me one summer when I was generally really bored (which leads to being really horny and looking at a lot of amateur porn). Maybe those new things became hot to me just due to exposure. Maybe we just become more open-minded (not the best term, but it works) sexually as we mature. Or maybe it is due to being sex-deprived. Whatever the reason, it's certainly not something to worry about. Having a wider "palate" can't be a bad thing. :slight_smile:
     
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    Maybe it's because you are getting older yourself? Whatever the reason it's definitely not something to worry about. You probably don't have the same favorite foods as you did when you were younger, or favorite songs, or anything like that so I don't think sexual preferences are any different.
     
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    Tonight I also had an unusual dream which might be an example of this.. In it I was topping a silky smooth mulatto guy in his late 20's/early 30's, but after the "act" realized I had forgotten to put on the condom I had prepared prior to us taking our clothes off. >_> Even after I awoke, I thought it was real for a few moments and was in a heavy panic that I might have contracted hiv.


    Maybe it's my subconcious mind trying to remind me not to think so much about sex.
     
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    I would wager that you've just got something going on... maybe a mild hormonal change that's making you a bit more horny, maybe extra stress in your life... there are a ton of things that could be affecting you.

    One thing that can sometimes be helpful is to be more mindful about your masturbation experiences. A lot of guys basically get conditioned to get in and get off, and their entire experience start-to-finish is 5 or 10 minutes. But a mindfulness-based masturbation practice is very different; you can take 30 or 40 minutes... with no porn... and while that sounds like an eternity to most people, it can actually be a very powerful experience if you practice it.

    And it can often have the effect of channeling your sexual energy better so you're finding yourself less constantly horny.

    As for who you're attracted to... that could just be a function of getting older, or it could be an opening up to deeper feelings seeking connection, or even a reflection of other things going on in your life.

    Feel free to PM me if you'd like to talk about any of this in a less public setting, otherwise feel free to let me know if I'm on the mark or have completely missed it :slight_smile:
     
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    So an interesting update.

    I just had the most sensuous, erotically heightened orgasm in my life... Was camming online with this 32 year old French Canadian guy from Quebec... he was tall, pale, slim/slender, with brown hair and sexy curves on his butt.. and classically French facial features... hehe...

    Anyways, here I thought 27 was my limit.. And a 32 year old guy has just given me the best 20 minutes of erotic pleasure I've ever experienced. Pleasant surprise, huh?


    It was all very verbal and vulgar too.


    (i was pretending to be the top, and he the bottom)
     
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