I am going to meet with my therapist tomorrow, but after much soul searching I am sure that I am a lesbian. I look at how my attractions have become more women centered, my fantasies focus on women and if I try to focus on a man, it fails hardcore. I am not open to being with men and I am more open to dating women. I have finally embraced that I am gay and there were subtle attractions to women here and there but now its 24/7. I have to embrace my new identity and hey whatever. With men I have always been sexually aggressive but pissed off when nothing emotional came of it. it seemed I would latch on to them and give love but gain nothing in return and now I see why. My heart belongs to a woman. I am ready world, I am a gay woman,lesbian. I do not.identify as bisexual because I do not foresee my being with another man. It only took 30 years to figure out.