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I just don't know anymore

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by UnchaindSilence, Jun 5, 2012.

  1. UnchaindSilence

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    For most of my life I've always been reserved, I don't ever come off as "that guy" who goes out and parties, I've been sheltered most of my life by "mother dearest" and such I'm always awkward around people. So when it comes to talking to a guy or girl that I like quiver and begin with my nervous tick of twiddling my fingers with the end of my shirt, which I find pointless because I end up not saying anything after all that time of looking a fool

    Please help me as I am starting College soon in Maryland and if I like someone I want to be able to confront with confidence. :icon_redf
     
  2. Lad123

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    I understand how you feel because I get that awkward feeling around people too. My mum has also protected me too much which hasn't done me any favours. There is nothing you can really do except practice socialising with people, yeah you didn't want to hear that right xD

    When you start college I recommend going to as many clubs that interest you in order to meet some possible friends. You have to step out of your comfort zone on this one, I know its daunting but think of it like this - everyone else is in the same boat as you and looking for friends so its ok if you make a fool of yourself.

    If you like someone then try to treat them as you would a friend and keep smiling (*hug*)
     
  3. ThatCoopKid

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    Don't take it too personally. College is a great way to meet people, because everyone in your class will be in the same position you will be - in a new place with no one that they know. I felt the same way my first month down here, and when that month was over I had good friends that I still talk to now months later. Just be yourself, try to strike up conversation when possible, and see where it goes :slight_smile:
     
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    I can only try, since, I have no reason to doubt the wisdom given to me
     
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    Yeah I have been sheltered my whole life and because of it, I am suffering big time... I feel so isolated all the time and making relationships to people are impossible. Thanks mom and dad. Anyway, I didn't make much improvement in college... a little but not what I wanted. Don't make the same mistake as me.
     
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    It's odd this both enlightens, and disheartens me