hey! after a fb pix change, i have written on a friend's wall pix, and a man from another country writes with me about his nation. and he asks to friend me. then in pm he asks me if i am a man, an hombre. i asked if he understood after i came out "i am. i am transgender." he said yeah, are you a male or female? i said; "um, born female body. i am transgender male. " he said he understood. then asked if i liked men. i said i like men he said women no? i said i like women he said and i like you? to which i replied:" i like friends" and he said "excuse me, i was just joking" first time asked if i am a man on fb. yeah!
Thanks girl! See I didn't have any testosterone therapy, yet, and just dressed my natural way, with a binder, man's tee shirt, and hair down shoulder length. I just wrote as I do naturally when I am not trying to fake a gender! And my pix made a man think, huh...wonder if the person is male or not? bet is my name on fb that makes him wonder...it is not my full first or last name...just 3 letters of both...and so most assume female, but in another country, they may not know! you know how in China KIM is a man, and her is girl? Well that is not my name, but you can see how that can work. so he just saw me and my ways of speaking about my hometown, and assumed I maybe a man! How wonderful is today?!
That's awesome!! I know on facebook some people think that I am male as well. My first name is Ashley (which could be male or female). My last name (don't worry admins I'm not saying it) is actually a male name. So that can cause confusion at times. It is really amazing when you finally start to feel like yourself.
yeah, to be real, to not try to please others who i don't really have connection to anyways. trying to fit into stereotypes or society norms are not really moral, not if it is unnatural and you are completely false. my sociology class last year helped me get rid of remnant bigotry i think was in me about black marrying white, totally left me! i didn't want it, and it left and i felt so much more moral, it was against my belief in creationism which says all races are from same lineage, so i felt like cheering...actually i did and everyone looked. but it also showed me how i had tried to please people i don't even know. like kindly thinking i could scare kids if they saw my scars, so i covered up even in summer. when i wrote it down, i was surprised at myself, and last year i began to wear shorts again. now, i realize it is just as okay to be accepting my inner identity is a male self, or if my sexuality is towards male or female it does not matter either, just as it is okay to be hearing or deaf, you can be any gender or like sex with any gender and be a nice person, not a killer or rapist, right? so...i got a pendant, it is expensive silver and hand made, and is an obscure symbol for transgender and i have it on now...and will wear it daily to remind myself to be happy in what i am, and to not worry what strangers think of me or judge me, but be what God made me and I am, and know I am better as a human if I don't judge too quickly too.
teee heee heee! i just love to say stuff, and yeah stereotype jokes abt myself...even to my face to face friends. my jokes about deafness: please sign slower, i was born hearing, I'm kinda slow.... oh your deaf? don't drink after me, I'm hearing and if you get my cold germs you could get sick, get n your ears, and go HEARING! some students take ASL and think "gee, i want to become rich, i think i will become interpreter!", but i thought "nah, i prefer poor, i think i will become DEAF!" to Deaf, i get a lot o laughs, but hearing are kinda sideways on me. don't be surprised to "hear" me joking about genders, male or female, and myself thrown in... un paid comedy often gets misunderstood. So ya been warned, i am full of it.
thank you! i loved it! to not only be questioned as to my gender, to be asked if I'm a man...not asked if I'm a woman...what a great day. life will get better now, for a cute straight girl to ask that!
