My relationship with my older sister has been bad for years and it has been getting worse since she got my married and now has a baby on the way. I never officially came out to her as a gay man but I get the idea she knows and that is why she disrespects me a lot of the time. She has caught me looking at gay related sites online not porn and has been suspicious of me in the past. In the fall of 2010 she sent me a disturbing message somewhat disturbing telling me to keep it a secret and never to tell anyone my secret. My parents know I am gay and accept me for being gay and I asked them if they told her anything. They said they never told her anything and she denied ever texting me saying that I was bothering her. I was out of the house and at college at the time. I nervous to be on facebook when she was on just because she might say something to me. She also told my parents I have gay friends on facebook and they were just concerned that relatives might see that and not be happy with it. I didn't care and keep them as my friends on there. Also she did not include me in her wedding for the most part and I the guy who passed out programs at the beginning. Sadly my own sister's wedding was one of the most awkward and uncomfortable experiences in my life. While preparing for her wedding she even asked my mom when I was in the room if my disabilities are genetic and my mom said that they were not genetic at all which was true but still it was a rude question to ask from my perspective. I have the feeling that any kind of relationship with my sister is impossible and once my parents pass away she may cut me out of my life she might be capable of it. She married into a very conservative republican family and she was once a open minded person now she seems to very close minded and rude. Is there any way to fix this relationship cause i don't know how I could ever confront her on this without it becoming a huge issue.
well, All she did really hurts (*hug*) but I think she can change have you ever tried talking with her? you said you are not out to her, but you are out to your parents, I think this (if she knows) hurts her, and maybe some of her behaviors are based on the feeling of being cut maybe you can ask her out and talk to her this may help
I am sorry but I don't understand what you are saying. This is about my bad relationship with my sister and I am asking what I could do to fix that.
Hope she gets a divorce! My sister moved to another state and doesn't talk to anyone in our family. She was fine before she got married. There is really nothing I can see doing. Talking to her... maybe... will help. But I think she has made up her mind and is going to stick with it. Especially considering what you said about her husbands family. If anything give it time, but for the most part, don't let this get you down. Move on with your life, she is. I don't mean to sound cold, but you didn't do anything wrong, this isn't your fault. And it sounds to me like your sister has cut you off. The problem is on her end, not yours.... I'm sorry.
The problem is that this been a problem for pretty much my whole time life except when I was young. My sister gets along with everyone in my family except me and she still talks to me but most of her comments are negative I am afraid that when my parents die she will cut me off completely which as hard it would be it is a decision that she made and while have to live with it.
ohg, she was what, gonna have tubes tied to prevent another mistake? that is how it sounds she sees you now. (*hug*) dude, I'm sooo sorry you have an ignorant mean sister. i am a conservative Christian, sorta! she is not close-minded, she is stupid...she does not love her brother much. my family, moms side, they are more evil over time. better ask your parents to be sure anything they promise you is in an airtight will to ensure she is not executor of estate, and put a 2nd copy in the court house just to be safe. not joke. don't plan on it getting better if her hubby is same way...unless you pray and a miracle happens. it can, but ya know...
Don't mean to sound rude but don't waste your time with her, she sounds like she doesn't accept you and she probably never will. It's not something you need to worry about.
My older brother and I use to be the exact same way. He's 9 yrs older then me. Finally I confronted him on it, and yes we argued, and I accused him of being jealous, and a few other things. Jealous because I am the baby of the family and as a result our mom is closer to me I guess, or that's what he thinks. I also asked him why he hates me. He said he doesn't hate me and I told him he sure as hell acts like it. And then I pointed out all the ways he talks down to me, and makes me feel bad. I think this argument is the best thing that ever happened between us. Were doing the best we've ever done, We actually get along now and get together and do things. Maybe you need to sit down with your sister and tell her how you feel. If it turns into an argument then maybe that's what needs to happen. I wish you the best.
