:tantrum:is so stupid my situiation i recently came out fo the closest about 3-4 weeks ago and i been crushing on this dude (before you ask yes he is gay) for awhile now and i dont know how to approch him. i have approached girls before with ease but i cant apporach this person. i havent seen him in person but he has seen me twice through out the school year we talked maybe 2 that were god converstaions other than that stupid little things that lasted about 5 seconds... i just want to be able to talk to him normally like i do with my friends... (o did i forget to mention that we dont know each other like friends wise where we would hang out or something the only way i found out about him is he sent me a fr on facebook cause he saw me at homecoming) of course i might think about dateing him since i like him and all but i like to get to know someone atlot before i date them so what should i do i am never this way with girls only with him like i dont want to mess upp i hate it :tears:
He sent you a friend request. Because he saw you. Does he know you are gay? My guess would be that he likes you. So, you can probably calm down a little. If you are not out to him, come out to him. If you are out to him, or once you are, tell him that you want more LGBT friends, and invite him to hang out some time. He already likes you. Everything is going to be fine. (*hug*)
ya im out to all my friends and its set on fb... i hope so cause ill feel really stupid if somehting actually does happen and turns out he doesnt.... but i still dont know hwo to approach him still :/
I think you are the way you are because you have an attraction to him, possibly your first gay attraction to another real boy. Even if you just want friendship, there is still a level of attraction. And there could also be fear there, not because your afraid of him, but maybe afraid of rejection. You might not feel this way with a girl, but then this could be more significant to you then a girl. At least at this point in your life. Hope this makes sense.
its makes sense to a point... i guess i am just afraid of rejection i still have no idea what to do and how to aproach him normally *sigh*
but what do i say... i barely know him so its not like i can just start a convo on anything really .. i guess i am just overthinking
Study his face book page, get to know him that way. Find similar interests, ask him to spend the night, get to know him that way... Ask him to a movie, invite him over to play video games, do homework, watch porn, listen to music, look at trading cards, play a board game, just do things that will help you get to know him. But have fun...
ya when my friends are over we do a lot of this stuff, especially porn nothing bonds more than watching porn together. ---------- Post added 8th Jun 2012 at 07:41 PM ---------- I feel creepy now........
If you see him in school take a few deep breaths then approach him and say, " Hey thanks for sending me a facebook friends invite, I liked talking to you in school but didnt know how to contact you...(then exchange numbers) . ect ect... want to hangout sometime? maybe go to a movie?" ect ect .. Good luck hope you become friends
I assume you go to the same school? Do you have any classes/subjects in common? Getting a "study" group planned or asking for help in a subject with your person of interest is one of the least creepy and easiest ways to initiate contact, plus, you've got something to initially talk about. Also you can send out a 'mass' message on Facebook about it (well, to anyone you intend to 'study' with) and that eliminates the scary face-to-face question. After the first get together it is easier to organize future, and more personal (i.e. one on one), hang outs.
tycho ya we do and no he is a grade ahead of me sadly but not sadly anyway why is everyone saying that lol im not that type of person that ask for help in school related issues and stuff TeeJay i dont even know how to reply to that lmao and i dont know about "studying" his facebook page lol isnt that a little creepyish/stalkerish andrew1403 ya but i dont see him at school and its over for the summer anyway now so i cant do that this is just a big blah -_-
dats such a cut little problem he is ur crush so ofcorse u ll be nervous around him. anyway u can try to know about him from other ppl first. anyway whynot accept that request and have a chat with him on facebook. later even u can go on a first date and try to know him best of luck
Since you are both out, "I'm trying to make more gay/bi friends" is probably adequate reason to talk to him. Contact him on Facebook via the chat thing or private message, and say that you are looking to make more gay and bi friends, and then ask him about his coming out experiences and tell him some of yours.
