For the last time YES. I am so very tired of my aunt asking me this *every time* my girlfriend and I go out... Then tonight she said I wish you'd hang out with other people. I DO hang out with other people so what I heard was "I wish you wouldn't hang out with *her*. She still doubts I'm gay, heck I'm still not sure what I am, but if she didn't want to know she shouldn't have read my diary in the first place. I mean I know she needs her time to come to terms with it too, but its not like I dropped the bomb on her ya kmow? I just feel like how can she judge ME when shes the one that read my diary.... I mean I tried to get over that, but she just keeps like degrading and invalidating me. What am I supposed to do?
she's your aunt, just stop doing things with her until she learns to behave, try and consider what this does to your girlfriend too. just be polite and tell her that while you understand that she needs time, it doesn't mean that you have to allow her to hurt your relationship, so until then maybe its best if you don't spend as much time together, just until she can come to terms with it.
relax, there is no need for others to know for certain about the nature of ur relationship. When people ask me: are you still with....you know? My response would be, um, sure ok? so basically it mirrors the attitude they give me just so they would see how bloody weird it is. I dont give a damn if they know we're together or not, we both know it, end of story. everyone can clean their bumholes in the meantime. forget ur aunt, since when was she supposed to be in the relationship too.
You may have already done this but have you sat done with your aunt and explained how hurtful her comments are?
Well I'm not doing stuff with my aunt just when I tell her what I'm doing she asks. The thing is I live with my aunt....
I disagree that you should stop talking with her. Knowing that you live with her, that strategy could quickly turn into a sticky problem. For what it's worth, it doesn't seem like she's completely intolerant. I've seen parents kick their own children out for being gay. Still, it'd be better if she accepted you. All I can say is to try to be patient with her. Don't let this escalate, because it would suck if she kicked you out. It does seem like she loves you, because she hasn't kicked you out. That counts for something. I read the other thread, so it seems like the situation ha difused quite a bit. Hopefully she will come to terms with it someday. My mother is very accepting of me, so I luckily haven't had to deal with problems like these, but I'm sorry that you have. I can't help but notice your maturity though. You seem to be handling yourself very well. Anyways, I know this is resurrecting an inactive thread, but I just wanted to tell you all that.