I'm sure this is a mirror image of a thousand other posts...

Hi welcome to EC
well I think lots of us had all of these feelings, even (saying this based on my personal feelings) when I accepted that I'm gay, there were mornings that I waked up and hoped not to be. but all of these will pass.

Things I think should be said
1) you don't have to be with some one to know that you are gay/lesbian/bi, I think it depends on who you have sexual fantasies with, who you want to be with. also Dreams really helps, I always had dreams with guys but never with a girl, what about you?
2) Is the best course of action to educate myself with books and conversations or should I just go with the flow and not be in a rush to figure things out? I think you should do mixture of these two you should read more, watch more, not porn movies and series which show daily life of homosexuals, I think series like Will & Grace, Modern Family, and movies Like Prayers for Bobby, A Single Man will give you a new prospect of gay/lesbian people, a more realistic picture. visiting EC and being in touch with people like yourself who are experiencing same feelings and stages will help too, or reading scientific papers about Homosexuality. But on the other hand don't rush, give yourself time and space

 

Hey I think most people have been where you are now. Dont panic its totally normal, even if it is rather annoying.

I can totally echo the fact you dont have to have been with someone to know who you want to be with. Otherwise every straight girl would be confused until they had been with a guy.

I think you have to try and seperate the 'I think im gay' and the 'I dont want to be', because unfortunately its not something you get to choose. Once you are surer that you are gay you can then work through the 'I dont want to be'.

I would suggest just watching people and seeing who you notice first they guys or the girls, try not to have any preconcieved ideas.

To me it sounds like maybe you already know but your are too scared about what it might mean.

 

This bit sounded similar to me except it would be "I think am gay but I don't want to be" and the only porn I ever really watch is gay/two guys. The probably I had though was wanting to just be normal and not realizing that there is no such thing as normal, let's face it we're all different and for a very good reason.

I think the best advice I would give you is basically, like you said, don't rush into making decisions and just go with the flow. No need to label yourself if you don't want.

I've also never experience any sexual encounter with a guy or been with guy in a relationship but I know that I am gay and that's who I am.

Just be yourself, go with the flow and don't rush in making a decsions and labels for yourself

Hope my rambling helped :icon_bigg

 

You might not even 'know' then! I've heard of people being with many men and women and still not being sure. There's no conclusive way to *prove* that you are gay/straight/bisexual. This was something I tried to do for a long time before realising that it was fruitless. I now call myself gay because that's what seems to make the most sense given the way I've noticed myself feel over the years, but reaching this stage has only come after deciding that I would accept myself for whatever I turned out to be. I'd definitely, as you put it, not be in a rush to figure things out.

 

you said the best thing :

that's the most important thing you should do

 

I am where you are right now. Sexual fantasies are always with girls for me. So I kind of figured. I don't want to be a lesbian either....