When my husband and I first started going out I couldn't wait to have sex with him, it was mainly for the intimacy, I loved being close to him and wanted to be as close to him as possible. I've always been that way with men, its such as beautiful feeling to be as close as possible. Thinking about having sex with him does turn me on and still does but it's mostly me thinking about what he is doing to me and not so much what I'm doing just to him. Seeing a naked man never ever turns me on just by looking. Also I rarely fantasize about sex with men to get turned on but I still think about it a lot, especially if I like someone. When I fantasize its usually about thinking of myself pleasuring myself or thinking of porn. With girls, I'm turned on when I see a naked girl, I focus more on her during porn, I can get off to lesbian porn although it is not my preference (anymore). When I was younger I pref to watch lesbian porn but as I got older and started liking sex I would watch more hetro porn. I am also focusing more on the girl, but in my mind I'm thinking I'm her cause I want the guy to be doing to her what I like my husband to do to me. Ive tried to visualize myself doing stuff to the girl, but I get turned off during porn. When I try to think of a random girl I think it could be ok, but when I think if actually doing it I feel like I'm going to gag but I think I'm in denial or something.
Nope, sounds like me. And I declare myself as bi. Its just that we may be strongly attracted to the feminine aspects more. Completely normal shouldn't worry too much as long as neither of u guys are unhappy its all good. Btw don't watch porn it corrupts the mind.
Now I think I would enjoy sex more with a woman and it feels like an animal lust kind of feeling, not how I feel about men. Guys are more about them touching me. A relationship with either does not seem appealable. And when I stop thinking about sex with a woman and I think about it like hours/days later feels like my mind doesn't want to think about it. I hate this. Guess I should wait for these pregnancy hormones to subside...
When you are bi, there is no exact definition. I think that this might be the appropriate label for you, but that is up for you, and you alone to decide. I have noticed that every bi person I've talked to has different preferences and different feelings towards each gender. Me? I prefer girls. And I could never ever give a guy oral sex, but I think I could give oral sex to a girl. Also, I used to only imagine myself in romantic relationships with men, but when I started imagining having that with women, it became harder to imagine myself spending the rest of my life with a man, because I don't think I could. I have major trust issues with them because of the experiences I had with them growin up. I have this wierd urges with women that I don't have with men. I love how nurturing women are. Idk how to explain it. But, I'm attracted to both men and women, despite the preferences and the personal issues. Seeing a man naked alone doesn't usually get me going at all- but seeing a woman naked can (I also see the art of it though- women are really quite beautiful). (....)
I dunno, I'm suddenly getting these urges to run out and have sex with a girl. I also have issues with men that I'm working through in therapy. I just want to stop thinking about this. One of my clients I was with today (female) I started imagining having sex with her and I got turned on there was something so attractive about her. I just kept looking at her funny. Then I went to speak to one of my cute male coworkers and I felt all giddy and butterflies and couldn't look him in the eye cause I looked not the greatest and when he touched me I felt tingly. Right now thinking about sex with a man makes me sick. I wish I could get out of my head and enjoy the rest of my pregnancy.
Hey Ms Lady, Something tells me that you are still predominantly heterosexual with some homosexual attachments. I think your anxiety is amplifying your same-sex attractions. Let me know how it is going with your therapist, hopefully you make wonderful progress.
I really hope so. Its so weird, I get into the mode, like lesbian mode and start seeing women in sexual ways that I wouldn't before, when I'm not obsessing that goes away and see men again. I went to my in laws today and then started thinking and I felt like I didn't know where I was anymore. And they all of a sudden looked like strangers. I'm also starting to feel like I don't want to be a girl anymore, I cut off my hair a few weeks ago to boy length and I feel a bit insecure. For some reason I can't see myself with a girl while I'm a girl, I feel like I will always be competing with her. I must be going crazy. I see my therapist next week. She told me to stay off the internet as what I do is "check" what does this and that mean. I'm trying, but my anxiety gets out of control if I don't. How are you doing?
