When I came out to my brother, he acted like a first class jerk. I don't know why I was so surprised but I was. But what bothered me the most was something he mentioned "in passing" during our conversation. I was trying to explain to him that God made me just the way I was and that I was fine just the way I was.... and he interrupted me with, "Well, then God made Jerry Sandusky just the way he was too." Needless to say, I put him down hard and fast. I told him, "I'm no pervert, I'm not a child molester." Then he backed down just a little bit but it was too late. I know I'm late coming out of the closet, but my God, is THIS what I have to look forward to? Have y'all been facing this all your LIVES??? I never came out for fear of rejection from my family but in my opinion, THIS is way more than rejection.... I don't even have words to describe what it is! I was so happy right at first when I finally decided to come out and quit dying over trying to keep the secret.... but this reaction from my own brother??? What's coming next? I don't have a job that I can be fired from, and my church is openly accepting and tolerant (thank God for the ELCA). But I live in a very conservative area and don't have much opportunity to meet people that I can discuss this with. I would so greatly appreciate anybody who would be willing to help me out with this.... thanks again!
I'm sorry to hear that your brother was so mean to you. Please give him some time and try not to jump to any conclusions about anything from that bad experience. His statement very well may have been a knee-jerk reaction and a manifestation of his discomfort. Keep in mind that he has a stake in this. There are jerks who will give him grief over his gay brother and he knows that. Also, you, his brother, just became something/someone different than he knew before. In his mind, you are suddenly not the person he knew. Of course, that is not true, but try to look at it from his point of view. In time he will most likely see that you are in fact, the same guy. In time, it may even strengthen your relationship. At 19 (going by your profile) you are not coming out late. You didn't mention how old your brother is, but I'm assuming he is close to your age. Late teens/early 20s is still a tough age for all of this. I commend you for coming out to your brother. I salute you. Job well done. The rockiest time is immediately after you come out. Your brother will not be the last person to react inappropriately. Stay strong and don't let it get you down. It does get better. Remain true to yourself and don't let it make you jaded or fearful. Just continuing to be you will in time prove that he was wrong, and he will see that. Some information to arm yourself with. There is probably more current stats to be found, but this is the latest that I have. I include this as much for you to boost your own ego as I do as a proper response to people who throw the pedophilia crap at you. When I was in my 20s we used to jokingly call 25 "over the hump." After that, most guys are tired of playing the macho game and begin to realize that, as corny as this sounds, we are all in it together. Attitudes loosen up and the need to "prove one's self" diminishes. Good luck with your journey Pippa. There will be more bumps, that is a given. But that will taper off. Cut your bro some slack. Try to talk to him again and show him some love. Cheers.
90% of the world is straight. its human biology, and the biology of animals. male/female. that 90% will hate you, and even if they act like they don't, they still will hate you.
My bad, I looked too quickly. 19 posts is not your age. DUH! HA! I love when I quote my own posts. (!) (I'm an idiot.)
I'm guessing your brother is younger than you. What he said was very stupid and based on his ignorance, and there will always be people that are ignorant. However, there will also be people who are less ignorant. And there will be special ones that are ignorant but willing to learn! The fact that you held your own against his ignorance was brave of you; being steadfast with him may have a positive impact down the line, as he learns to accept his sister's sexuality.