dealing with bullying

oh wow serious?

what about your parents, what is their say on this?? do they know??

 

Ok, I'm not a specialist or anything, my experience is limited, and I might be horribly wrong, but here are my views...

Those people you came out to are gossipy idiots.

There are two things you must realize. First is, although it seems that "everyone" is against you, it's not really so. Usually there's a core of real troublemakers who are sadistic enough to go out of their way to do this sort of thing, and the vast majority, who may or may not approve of you, but won't cause any real trouble, and may even turn out to be supportive, if the bully clique loses its influence. Nobody really likes these types, you see... Teachers definitely don't, and probably neither do your classmates, they just go along with it mostly out of fear/apathy. Not to mention, that hard as it may seem to believe right now, your school isn't the whole world, and your classmates the only people that matter.

The second is, this is a problem you really can't solve alone. You need some kind of help, be it from parents, school staff, your friends or activist groups. It's a simple numbers game, - there are more bullies than you can deal with personally, so they feel it's all good, harmless fun (swine.) If you have someone accepting to talk to, it's easier, and bullying does stop once it stops to be fun (or consequence-free) real fast.

That being said, as tempting as just attacking them back might seem, don't do it. Even if it works, it'll just escalate your troubles until you're in real shit.

 

Hey Zozo. You've gotten some really good advice from WeirdnessMagnet, and I want to echo everything said there.

I also wanted to give you this: (*hug*)

An e-hug can't replace the real thing, but it's the best I can do.

I was also bullied when I was growing up, pretty much from sixth grade onward. It was pretty bad. At one point someone had started a rumor that I was gay, and anti-gay bullying was directed at me. Of course, they didn't know the truth - none of them did. They were just assholes.

It is sad that you've placed trust in two individuals that then broke your trust.

I have to ask, do your parents know? I'm guessing that they don't.

Have you spoken to anyone at the school, such as a guidance councilor about it?

Like WeirdnessMagnet said, this isn't something that you can handle alone. What they are doing to you, is not okay.

There ARE people out here who can help you, but we need to know who you've told - especially your parents, teachers, guidance councilor, and school administrators (such as the Principle). If any of them know, are they doing anything at all?

It's important for you to know that you haven't done anything wrong, and being bullied like this is nothing to be ashamed about. It happens all the time, unfortunately, and to LGBT people in particular. I understand if you don't want your parents to know, especially if they don't know you're gay.

 

I was also bullied a lot when I was in school. I would try to find an adult that you trust to talk to. Like others have said, you might want to consider talking to some school administration members. When you go and talk to them, have a list of some of the people that have bullied you the worst. Also, try to write down what they have called you and what they said. This will help the school be able to do something to stop the problem.

I'm really sorry that you have to go through this.