So um...I'm new at all this so please be patient So I feel that I can't erm....get myself off as you say? Be it by myself or with my partner I just can't seem to be turned on. I know..it's quite embarrassing, but I'm sure plenty of people have this issue. I'm not a small girl...so I get very shy and insecure when it comes to intercourse, and even by myself, I just can't seem to put myself "in the mood". I've tried watching porn and it seems that I get incredibly turned on when I see certain actresses, but I still can't seem to be comfortable enough in my body to open up and be "sexy" or "sexual". Something that my partner realized with me one day after intercourse is that when the person and I do get intimate I can never remember anything that has happened. I don't know if there's something wrong with me or not but it's just strange. My partner says that I shut out the "sexual" part of myself but I don't know anymore. Any advice? troubled
firstly Welcome to EC secondly id discuss with her how it makes you feel and ask her what she wants from you
Hey welcome to EC, I dont think there is anything wrong with you, you dont say how long you have been with your girlfriend but it can take time and work to feel comfortable in these situations. The most important thing is that you keep communicating with your girlfriend so that she knows how you feel and so she knows that it isnt her. I am assuming you dont have any problems with getting your girlfriend off? I think it is important that you dont put any pressure on yourself, only do things when you are in the mood for it, and dont feel bad if you only go so far and then stop. Would you feel more comfortable in the dark? Or under the covers? Or with clothes on? Do you get so far and then loose interest or do you never feel like it?
