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One step closer to accepting being gay

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by cscipio, Jun 28, 2012.

  1. cscipio

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    I guess I'm one step closer to accepting I'm full-on gay (and being ok with it).

    I had a date with a woman last night that ended in bed. It was a set-up from a friend who didn't know I was even questioning. I figured it'd be a nice dinner and conversation; but, she was pretty interested in coming to my house for drinks. Not being one to turn down drinks, I was fine with it. As it got later, and we got drunker, I said she could stay if she wanted - she bee-lined to my bed. Once in bed I explained to her I think I'm bi or gay and haven't been with anyone for a very, very long time (she thought this was sexy). Not going into sex details it was basically....meh...I'm pretty sure for both of us.

    Now, it could be whiskey dick, it could be nerves, but....I'm coming to accept that if that was a man still sleeping in my bed I'd be in there for round 2 or 3 and not typing this post due to insomnia.

    Oh well, some of us are visual and tactile learners.

    PS - is there a label for a guy who doesn't like vaginal sex but loves orally pleasing a vagina? Sorry for being graphic, but I really was into that part of the night.
     
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    Well... it is nice to actually get a sense of clarity :slight_smile:

    The only term I've heard is generally considered derogatory: carpet muncher :slight_smile:
     
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    Awesome.

    Like I said, there was no ulterior motive, lies, or otherwise. Given that, we enjoyed ourselves.....I figure so long as there's transperency, why not, eh?
     
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    Well, the term that springs to mind is: "cunning linguist" :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    In any case, if one of your first thoughts after having sex with a woman was: "let's go on EC and tell how I'd totally have gone for more with a guy!"; it's pretty likely you fall more towards the gay end of the spectrum :slight_smile:

    As long as there's transparency, it's not a bad thing to find out this way. Though it might be best to sometimes check if with a man, the whole package would excite you more, instead of just making you go "meh, why not?"
     
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    Gosh she must have been horney! Funny story really. Well I am glad you are honest.