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Too worried about looks.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Neutrality, Jun 30, 2012.

  1. Neutrality

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    So, I think I've learned from recent post that I might be way to concerned about my looks. =( A lot of times I feel like I'm not very sexy and then I panic because if we assume 10% of the population is gay then there are only 156 gay men between 20-29 in my town...I worry that I don't look good enough to really get one of them. I know I don't look too bad, at least I'm pretty sure I don't but somewhere in the back of my mind I still worry about it. Does anyone have any advice for getting over this feeling so I can feel like I'm sexy.
     
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    I don't know, you look perfect in my opinion. :grin:
    I would kill to look like you, you know.:tantrum:
     
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    Aww, Thanks I wasn't really fishing for compliments but I'd be lying if I said it didn't make me feel a little better to hear something like that. I just always feel weird about it because I've only met one other gay guy so I don't have much of a way to judge it....I guess I could go by girl's opinion's but, my friend tells me I look adorable...like a puppy and girls don't like that...but I don't really care what women think about my looks.
     
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    I thought girls liked cute things? :wink:
    I'm sure there are people out there that find you attractive. If you really feel insecure, maybe you should work out, just a little bit.
     
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    I've actually been doing that....to be honest 6 months ago I weighed 307lbs and I'm down to 260...and still working on it...I think maybe a lot of my worry comes from the fact that I used to be sooo big.
     
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    In that case, you'll be as fit as a fiddle soon (or at least fit enough to look good in everyone's eyes). :grin:
    But really, you look good in your pictures. :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks, hearing that from a guy my age is a big pick me up. =)
     
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    i lost 100+ pounds and look like a totally different person... people approach you alot more when you are fit, and look at you alot more. use a BMI chart and find a healthy weight for your height, eat right, work out, be social, and you will feel alot better about yourself