I never thought I'd be here....but here we go. I am 27, and I am just now accepting that I am not straight. Since 6th grade I started dating boys and I enjoyed it, but something was always off. I can also remember in grade school and junior high being attracted to girls. I just ended a 3 year relationship with a wonderful man who is very accepting and helping me to cope with the fact I like women. In that relationship we invited a woman into our bedroom and that was when it really hit me. I want to be with a woman. We didn't get to go very far, but I knew it felt more right than I could've imagined. / I am scared. I don't know how I will tell anyone. I don't know if my parents will ever understand. I think my brother and sister will understand, but I just need someone to talk to. I guess I feel like I should explore and know for sure before coming out, but even as I type that I think I already know, but am just scared to fully admit it. If anyone can help or give any advice I would be very grateful.
Hi, welcome to a place where the majority of us know what you're through. I know what you're feeling is very scary because I've been where you are now. I was so afraid that I denied my feelings, tried to conform to society, which left me in a self loathing state of depression. So, whatever you do do not deny your feelings, that has been my biggest regret ever! Btw I'm 25, I've known all my life that I had an interest in girls, but it took years for me to accept it. The person who helped me the most was a girl who anonymously contacted me through another website. I poured my heart out to her even though I didn't know her, which made things easier. We would send messages to one another, which carried on for almost a year. And then one day everything just clicked, she said, ”Why waste your time being sad about something we have no control over? We're given this one life, so embrace it because life is too short.” If you want, you don't have to come out as lesbian, perhaps questioning first, then explain it to those whom you choose to come out to. I came out as bisexual first, however, whenever I'd date a guy I'd wish he was a girl. I was so miserable inside that I couldn't take it anymore. Accept your feelings, embrace them and just remember how lucky you are. Women are beautiful...we get to have our cake and eat it too; your girlfriend will not only be your best friend, but your lover too, sounds pretty awesome
Hey I totally understand where you are coming from, I was about 26 when I started coming out, and I absolutely had all of the same fears you have. Just take one step at a time, and do so at your own pace, you will know when the time is right to come out to people and it will get better.