Best way to come out to my homophobic family?

Why can't you come out at school without coming out to them? Coming out to your family seems like a bad idea, anyhow.

 

you should gather them together in a room when there not busy and plain out tell them.
"I'm bisexual" they are in fact you're family, I'm sure they will love you no matter what.
Besides if you're okay with who you are, they should be too, being gay or bisexual is a individual choice, that they can't make for you.
I obviously don't know you're family, but I'm sure they will love you no matter what, after all being bisexual is just a choice in you're sexual preference it doesn't define who you are.

 

Do you really think being gay/bi is a choice?

 

Really? :eusa_eh:

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And Burrito, I think it's great that you're totally comfortable with who you are. That's a perfect spot from which to tell your family. But you should prepare for the worst, just in case. I am extremely sure that your family will still love and accept you. But just in case, have a back up plan.

 

Eh, she's only 13, give her a bit of a break for inaccuracies.

Ah, I see. Well, you could try coming out to your circle of friends first and let them know about the situation with your family, specifically that they can't tell anyone else in case they might find out. This is important to do because you'll need a support network before you take the plunge and come out to your family, especially because they are so homophobic. I said it was a bad idea, and it will definitely be stressful, but if it is inhibiting you from coming out fully at school and in your social life then perhaps it is worth doing.

 

Commandeer a gay pride float and ride past your house with a megaphone shouting "I'm bi!!!!" as men and women grind on you to the latest Gaga song.


Ooooooooor, I'd just wait. I'd wait until college or you are out of the house since you are so young and dependent on your family at the moment. If you must tell them, though... nothing but respect. I understand how hard it is to keep it inside when you just want people to know who you are. Perhaps the best way is while they are comfortable at home watching tv... I told my family one at a time, though. That worked pretty well.

Just don't expect praise right off the bat. It took a month for my mom to come around. It's taken years for other people to have their parents come around.

 

I needed a good laugh :lol:

 

Let us know how everything goes

 

You've got a long way to go - the rest of high school and then college later on. You're going to need your parents' financial support, if nothing else, to get through with it. I would think it'll be easier to tell your parents and family once you no longer rely on them for basic survival (that's what I'm doing, at least). If you're really itching to tell someone, stick with a few very close friends - the kind you would trust with your life - and ask them not to tell your family.

Now, obviously, if you win the lottery or a boatload of money, you can forget about what I said. But let's face it: that probably won't happen.

 

Everybody has given you good advice, but I'd just add one thing. Even thought you're not close to your brother and dad, don't show them any disrespect before/when you tell them. You can't expect respect from them if you don't give any.

 

I'm not entirely convinced that it's a good idea to come out to them, at least not yet.
You're only 14, so although I trust that you are genuinely bi, your homophobic family are less likely to believe you and more likely to just bash you for being 'delusional' or making 'bad life choices' or something.
I just think that for your own safety you should wait a couple of years.
It's a horrible wait, but your safety is worth it.

 

I wouldn't suggest coming out at a young age. I'm also 14 and I came out to my parents and people in school. The bad part is people think I'm confused and I'll change my mind. The even worst part is since no guys ever believe that I'm gay they constantly ask me out. I'm terrieble at turning people down so I usually say yes.