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Just told someone...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Megan3, Jul 11, 2012.

  1. Megan3

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    I just told someone I'm bisexual. I'm freaking out over here..... I mean, I've spoken to people about my sexuality on forums like EC and everything, but there's something different about it when they can see my face and who I am. We just met (which might be why I felt comfortable telling her) but I'm kind of spinning in circles trying to get myself to breathe. What to do, what to do...
     
  2. KeanusGuitarus

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    Does she accept you? Does she say that it is fine? If not then I can understand where you are coming from.
     
  3. Megan3

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    She does. In fact, she's bi also. It's just so unnerving.
     
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    I was a bit on edge when I came out to multiple people, crying most times. But I have gotten used to telling the friends I trust most. I'm sure if you start to tell others you will feel so much better.
     
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    It's hard telling someone about yourself.. I know I struggle sometimes when I tell people... I tell some random strangers and they are just like "why are you telling me this, you're a fucked up creature."
     
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    Take a deep breath and then smile. Just breath and get used to the idea.
     
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    Man I used to cry every time I told someone for the first bit. It was just such an emotional thing.

    And congrats Megan!! But what makes it unnerving that she's bi also?
     
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    It will get better! That's exactly how I felt when I came out for the first time, it almost got worse before it got better. But then I told someone else and it feels a little better now!
     
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    Yeah since this just started, it's an unstoppable thing!
    You will feel like telling more people and all! And you will feel better!
    Congrats! Yeah at first you will feel weird, and thinking about what is gonna happen next time you see them in person again lol
     
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    I know exactly how you feel! the first person I told was my best friend,Jessica, and turns out she's Bisexual too!! I know it's ultra scary at first because saying it outloud makes it that much more real. There's really nothing to be scared of! She's Bi too, she should understand if you tell her you'd like to keep it under wraps for the time being! In the end, she's gonna be your biggest support, you're very fortunate to have told someone who is also Bi! PLEASE feel free to message me if you'd like! I'd love to help if I can!:slight_smile: