Self mutilation

I know how you feel, I used to self harm during my early teenage years. It helped me cope, but it left behind memories that I try to forget. I've had helped, but the underlining problem still lingered into my late teens; I just couldn't accept myself as gay. I had trouble discussing my problems with my family, especially my parents, so I sought help on my own. Are you okay with who you are? If you decide to talk to her make sure you're okay with her knowing. I feel like my family will never understand why, which makes me feel even more abnormal, but I've embraced who I am.

 

I agree. Talk about these "other reasons," whatever they may be, with your therapist. They can't help you if they don't know what's going on.

 

I've been self-harming for several years. I've been able to stop with the help of my therapist (who was awesome and I would never thank her enough) but only because I decided to be honest with her and open up completely, including about things I was hiding from myself.
I completely agree with Chip. Whatever are the reasons why you're self-harming, opening up about it to your therapist would be the first step on the journey to stop self-harming.
If you're not feeling comfortable enough with your current therapist to tell them, it's fine, but in that case I would strongly advice on finding another therapist with whom you'd feel comfortable with.
Take care, Cécile

 

So, much like what everyone keeps saying, if you're unsure how to tell your mother, then, tell your therapist. Unless you self harm for masochistic reasons, the type of self harm also can dictate the severity of the issue, as well as other, more psychological reasons. (I used to burn, friction or otherwise). So since you don't seem like you want to tell us the reason you're cutting (which there's nothing wrong with) it is important that your therapist does know the reason, as it could influence how they try and help you.

Like I said, I did intentionally hurt myself, and sometimes I still do. I've also many had friends and acquaintances who hurt themselves (or still do) in various ways. Yet none of us had the same reason for doing so. So figuring out and accepting/working on the reason behind it is important if you want to stop it.

To answer your main issue:

It depends on how well your mum would deal with the information. Assuming she doesn't easily overreact to big news, then it'd be good to tell her, or at least to confide in someone, therapist, friend, or otherwise. If the person you confide in doesn't handle news of this caliber well, then that could do more harm than good.

Sorry what I said is vague, but I hope it helps.

 

You should tell your therapist because it will help you open up. There are reasons why you are doing what you are doing, and you need to talk about it to help you solve it.

 

just keep trying to be positive...im not saying be happy or anything...sometimes you cant be. but def try to bring it up with your therapist. if they don't listen, try to convice them or get a new one. or talk to a good friend. my bff helped me get past cutting, although i still do when i dont know how else to cope. but i don't do it nearly as often. it is possible to move on. just stay stronger than yourself.

 

Self harm due to masochism. So basically, would you tell your mom what your fetishes are? That's what it amounts to.

 

There are doctors and therapists that specialize in sexual deviance. It's worth looking into if you want some understanding or help with that.

 

I'd like to say that ive conquered cutting and am stromger for it now... but i can't. not exactly.not now. i'm seeing someone(a counselorr, so to speak)- but i dont feel like we have nearly enough in common to tell her i'm gay- let alone that i sometimes still struggle with self mutilating habits. i, like my dear spellbound, try my best to stay positive. not to dwell on the things that gave me the urge to cut in the past. rejection, hostility, separation and being alone.i just had to remember to try to keep in my mind who and what i love. they are what keeps me sane.

 

Masochistic hum? There are ways to get your thrill without leaving permanent scars. Maybe you should look into groups for tips!

I also understand that you don't WANT to stop. That's an important point and, like smoking, you won't stop if you don't really want to. You could switch ways though.

Maybe misplaced comment but... haha I'd help. And I know for a fact that there is loads of people out there who would too.