Dayum... talk about persistent. ( @3@)

[Waffles]

Hey everyone~!

So! I was at my friend's sweet 16 birthday party, and there were only two guys there (me and another... call him P) there were around 8 girls there. SO, we were watching a movie, when he slowly started inching closer to my friend "K" (who I was snuggling with). He kept looking at me and inching back slowly... until he was sandwiching her between us. I could only move my arm a bit and it ended up on his shoulder (I was holding hands with K too). So basically... he started tracing hearts on my hand (yes, he knew it was my hand). And after the movie, he asked me for my number. So... I gave it to him. Later that night... he texted me at around midnight saying "Hey there sexy". So we traded greetings, and then he said "I have to be blunt". I said "okay, what's up?" and he said "I'm gay, and I like you... a lot" And then he also said "I'm under the impression that you roll the same way, unless I'm mistaken". I told him that "I was flattered that he liked me, but right now I need time to figure out stuff in my heart and in myself before I start seeing anyone." He was fine with that and said "okay".

WELP... apparently he REALLY likes me. He keeps complimenting me and being all cutesy, but he isn't my type. I tried to explain it to him that I'm not interested, but apparently "no" isn't an answer. He's asking me all about when we can hang out and I keep telling him I have work and sports. ( -A-) But he's just SO DARN PERSISTENT, no matter what I say. It's kinda stressing me out a bit.

SO... if telling him multiple times that I'm not interested isn't working, how do I flat out spell out "I'M NOT INTERESTED", because telling him bluntly doesn't seem to be doing the trick. OTL

Any advice is welcome~
Hugs for everyone~! (>.w.)>

[ezkill]

You literally have to spell it out. But don't hurt his feelings doing so. Just tell him, in person preferably (because that takes a lot of guts and shows respect for the other person), that "Hey... I know you're interested in me, but I'm just not interested in anything more than being friends with you right now".

By the way, I'd at least give him a chance at friendship. You'd be surprised how "types" mean next to nothing as you get older -- if not in terms of dating, then certainly in terms of friendship (unless of course we're talking about a "druggie" or "criminal" type ha).

[kitsune309]

Hmmm... Well, I'd cut the sweetness. Flat out ignore the texts that have a sentiment you don't want. Respond to the ones that treat you as a friend or acquaintance. Give the guy a chance at just friends, but don't get his hopes up.

[Aielar]

My advice would be to say no and then be firm about it. As Kitsune said, don't respond to texts that cross the friendship line (ie; ones that say hey sexy or whatever) and hopefully he'll get that you aren't interested. I'd also suggest hanging out with him in public when you meet up with him - that way there is no mixed signals and he won't get the wrong idea.