Is he really straight?

Of course he's not straight. :lol:

 

Er, straight men don't have sex with men and enjoy it?

 

He's gay as the day is long brooo. Like the guys who have a permanent ad on craigslist trolling for c*** but claiming to be straight .:roflmao:....idk could be bi tho

 

Do you enjoy sex with a woman?

Why not?

That doesn't mean anything. Ever heard of versatile? What you say is very stereotypical.

There are more labels than just "gay", just so you know.

 

Um... well, he may not be gay but by god he's not straight! He may have only just realised he's not straight or something but if he's really into you then don't let his sexuality bother you, when you two get closer you could perhaps bring it up with him?

 

Again, there are not always a top and a bottom in a gay relationship. Many don't identify as either top or bottom. They're just men who like men.

Yes, that's exactly what I said. Why can't they be gay or bi?

He could be bi or pansexual or anything. That's the impression I got. Only he knows what he wants, and labels are just labels, don't pay attention to them.

 

It might be a fantasy of his to be dominated, and really have nothing to do with being the bottom. You'd be surprised at how many straight guys I've talked to that have wondered what it's like to be the bottom. There's also a huge spectrum of sexuality, so he may not be straight, or gay, OR completely half and half. Sexuality is way too complicated to be assigning labels left and right.

I had a straight friend, and yes I believe he is straight because he has always dated girls, and I am the only guy he fooled around with (past the experimental stage). But he did ask me to penetrate him twice. I suspect, again, that it has more to do with trying out the whole domination-submission idea, rather than the idea of being penetrated by a male.

 

I'm speechless!
Er, the whole "always dated girls" thing isn't really the indicator of orientation...

 

this is one of the main reasons putting a label on orientation isnt always the best way to describe preferances.

i know some "straight" guys who are in fraternities and have gfs, but kiss other guys. they also hug in public. and they admit they will never have sex with another guy, but they do a lot of homoerotic activities in public. But i also know some guys who are extremely "traditional" and will never ever walk next to another man unless a girl is present... they are the "straighter than an arrow" type.

this is one of those things i scratch my head at... and say "WTF?"

 

I don't think he's necessarily gay, but he's certainly not straight. Acting like a total womanizer could just be overcompensation, but there is a big chance he might just be bisexual/pansexual.

Not looking at men on the street doesn't have to mean anything either. Until very recently (after I came out to a few friends) I didn't do that either, although I knew I was (and am) gay. I just completely ignored that part of me for the most part, at least when other people were concerned and when I was sober.

Sadly, there are still a lot of people who are attracted to the same sex to a certain degree, but don't think of themselves as gay/bi...

 

The straight male bottom bitch is something gay men sometimes have a hard time wrapping their heads around, but many straight men like getting pegged by their girlfriends. The human brain is a bit polymorphously perverse, and it's possible for guys to like the idea of being penetrated because it feels intimate while still finding the female body attractive.

He might be fantasizing about being turned into a woman and getting fucked as a woman. The active agent in his mind is still female.

Or maybe he's bi, or maybe he's a closet case. Who knows.

 

It doesn't matter what kind of sex he enjoys or whether or not he wants to top or bottom: what matters is that he's having sex with a guy. He could be bisexual, or closeted, or questioning his gender -- but if he's seeking out sex with a guy then he is not a straight guy.

 

Well, I'd say it would even be possible that he's subconciously trying to convince himself that he likes women. But from what you describe, my bet would be that he likes women, just not exclusively.

Chosing to be with a guy when you see yourself as "straight" is certainly the more difficult choice. So I don't think you are a second choice. I can see how that would make you feel uncomfortable though.

A person who is pansexual doesn't care what gender identity their partner has. So for example they can also be attracted to intersex or transgender people.

Yes I think there are many straight men like that, but they would probably rather find a girlfriend to peg them than a guy.