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so confused at the moment !! helpp?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by KookyKirsten, Jul 19, 2012.

  1. KookyKirsten

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    so ive really been thinking about this all for awhile now, nd i really think im a lesbian.. but the thing is i have a boyfriend and i LOVE him, but im almost positive im a lesbian.
    i WANT to be with a girl.. and when i see two girls together i just think its so cute ! plus my moms gay, nd ive always wanted to have what her and my step mom have together.. i always just thought it was just the love between them that ive always wanted but im starting to think its more than that..
    i have done more things with a girl when it comes to foreplay (still a virgin) but when it comes to my boyfriend he's doing everything because i just am not comfortable doing anything.. ive done sumthings once nd it just didnt please me, i was bored when the whole time he sed he new it had to be pleasurable for the both of us.. but i was bored nd it was awkward.. but when ive done things with girls its fun for the both of us. and i just cant see myself losing my virginity to a guy.
    i have always dated guys tho.. ive been in one real relationship with a girl.. ive had crushes on girls alot and when i know a girl is bi or gay i tend to show off or flirt with them..
    but i dont know if im just bi.. or if i really am a lesbian /:
    my boyfriend always tells me that he knows im bi but he thinks im more straight than anything, that he couldnt actually see me really being with a girl. but my mom tells me she thinks imma end up with a girl in the long run..
    i just need help figuring this out.. i dont want to string along my boyfriend and hurt him in the end if im a lesbian (which i think i am.. maybe) or lose him nd hurt him to go explore and find out that i really am just bi..
    gahhhh, advice ?? please !!
     
  2. Cody25

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    I don't really have any advice I could give for this, but if you do not enjoy getting physical with your bf, it only makes sense... Do you enjoy being with girls? I mean you can still love someone, but if the physical component is not there, it will only end up bad in the long run. Just my two cents, good luck! (*hug*)
     
  3. Aniot

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    I agree with Cody. If you enjoy being with a girl in a way that you don't with a guy then you may be lesbian or at least bisexual. Don't let the relationship of your mother with your step mother get in the way. You must discover your own feelings by yourself.

    Good luck =) :kiss: