Hi all, i'm new here! I'm 16 years old Bulgarian from Croatia and i'm bisexual. ... So is it true the myth that all bi and gay people are feminine? In my country this is disseminated fact, but every day i saw more and more boys which make gayish pictures of themselves and they are not feminine at all... BTW, sorry for my not very good english.
Just like straight men, some are, some aren't. The main difference is that we tend to be a lot more willing to express femininity than most straight men. That said, one of the most girly guys I know is straight as an arrow.
I had a very feminine roommate in college who is straight as an arrow. I'm about as stereotypically 'guy' as a guy gets. I'm gay. Go figure.
I'm an extremely feminine lesbian. Gender variance (acting outside the "norm" for your gender) goes only partly with a non-straight sexual orientation. Based on studies they've done, including some where they follow gender variant children into adulthood, we can say that gender variant people are more likely to be gay than the general population, and gay people are more likely to be gender variant than the general population. But there are still plenty of people who are only one or the other. Think of it this way: if someone has blond hair, it is statistically more likely that they will have blue eyes than the general population. Likewise, if someone has blue eyes, it's more likely that they will be blond. But both traits are also seen separately plenty of the time. Being blond doesn't mean that you will have blue eyes, necessarily.
I wouldn't call myself girly. I know one of my guy friends is a bit feminine (he's bisexual, but is more attracted to guys) and my gf is bi also... She's gorgeaous and takes care of herself but I wouldn't describe her as 'girly' either. more emo...
He means gay and bisexual men, I'm pretty sure. He would probably expect lesbians and bisexual women to be more masculine.
I'm not all that feminine. I'm more on the butch side of the spectrum, and so is my girlfriend. But, I suppose you're probably only talking about men, eh?
Umm obviously all of us aren't. I won't sit there and pretend I'm super manly and into all of that stuff. I'm not super womanly either. I do what I like and I don't do what I don't like. Simple as that. I expect most gays and bisexuals to be the same. In the words of Ke$ha. . . "We R Who We R."
im gay and feminine but not everyone is... a lot are, but people should stop creating stupid stereotypes.
Since I'm not out yet I can't really say if I'd act effeminate or not, but I'm sure there are masculine gay men. Also, stereotypes suck: I like death metal and football.
No. I am a huge flamer, but my bisexual male friend from childhood is pretty masculine in his gender presentation.
You're trying to make this appear black and white when it realistically just cannot be simplified like that. In many cases, including mine, the line between masculinity and femininity is pretty much blurred. I have my share of feminine qualities while at the same time having my share of masculine qualities.
