Unpleasant phone call - Abyss

[Zaio]

So about an hour ago I had a rather unpleasant phone call. Someone rang me from an Unknown number, I presume the same person who has been trying for a week or so. I decided to answer it this time, figuring maybe they need to get in touch with me, might be a friend who got a new phone or something.

Me: Hello?
Him: Hello.
Me: ... Hello?
Him: Hello.
Me: Who is this?
Him: You're a fag.

.. He then hangs up. Now, my thoughts after that were something along the lines of "is your life that pathetic that you have nothing to do other than make yourself look like a shoddy excuse for a human being?" However now it is getting to me. The call itself is nothing but immature and immoral, but the concept is what's getting to me. This is what I'm going to have to deal with my whole life isn't it? When I go to college this is what it's going to be like, but much more often, isn't it?

I don't know why but it seems to make me more upset when it comes from complete strangers, without being able to argue back it somehow feels like he won.

How do you guys just ignore these type of things? Today was the first time in a few months that I've felt happy, started working out again, strengthening leg muscles too and just getting back into my usual self when I'm not depresseed. Now I'm sinking back into depression again because that call completely killed my happiness.

I just don't get why people feel the need to make others unhappy...

[Lad123]

When you go to college it won't be anything like this. People in college are incredibly more mature and accepting compared to those idiots in secondary school. You won't have to deal with this crap anymore. I promise.

They feel the need to make others unhappy because their lives are rubbish and they need to bully others to make themselves feel better. I know its easier said than done but try not to let it get to you.

Stay strong!

[Zaio]

I can understand that, but a lot of people at college would also be somewhat more intelligible, they will have set views on their beliefs and I'm sure a lot more would be willing to voice their opinions about how wrong homosexuality is, or something misguided.

I'm just becoming so misanthropic, I just hate everyone now, it's bringing me down so much.

[thecat06]

Wow... I used to get unknown calls all the time. I just did not answer them. I'm sorry to hear that this is happening to you. If it continues to happen I would tell an adult that you could trust about it or go to police. If it continues it could be considered harassment.

Just don't let it bother you for now. I would keep an eye out to make sure that things do not escalate. I hope that things get better for you!!

[Zaio]

Originally Posted by thecat06

If it continues it could be considered harassment.

Oh I didn't even think of that... Now I kind of hope it continues, lol.

Thanks for the support though, I appreciate it.

[Aniot]

Hey don't get down with that

They just wanna get you don't and upset you. You seem a great and confident person so they just wanna piss you off. I've been through that all my school time until I got to college now. People don't care about your sexuality and they are much mature so they don't try to prank you like that.

The person that called you is just some childish person that don't get it. Don't care. It's just the age. Let them grow. While they grow those things fade away. Believe me and everyone else, it gets a lot better when you grow up then when you are a kid, because the other just wanna fit in and sometimes they make those things to fit in the general group.

So keep with your spirit and as confident as you are today. If you ignore people they'll realize that they can't get you don't and sooner or later they'll stop with those things.

Good Luck

[Chip]

I know it hurts, but honestly, if you think about it, you have to laugh. I mean, he's making a statement of fact. You could respond with "And you're an asshole. What's your point?" or "And I'm also 5'10. Do you have any other earth-shattering revelations to share?" or something like that.

Those sorts of things only have power over you if you allow them to. If you simply refuse to allow the statements to have any effect on you, then they lose all power over you, and make the other person feel dumb.

[Gravity]

That stinks. Try not to expect the worst from people though - in all likelihood it's just one person doing this, who has nothing better to do with their time. And try to remember - this guy is in the VAST minority. I think your first reaction is exactly right:

Originally Posted by Zaio

..."is your life that pathetic that you have nothing to do other than make yourself look like a shoddy excuse for a human being?" ... The call itself is nothing but immature and immoral.

If this keeps happening, you can go to your phone service provider and both a) find out what number the calls are coming from, and b) get that number blocked (or come up with something more creative). Phone calls are never truly anonymous.

[Zaio]

Not actually a bad idea Chip, I'm considering psychology as a career path so I might start getting an early education via books to learn about how to manipulate people in minor ways such as this.

It just pisses me off how nobody says anything mellifluous anymore, it's all derogatory synonyms. I think it's so rare to meet someone without fallacious opinions now.

Do people like this always do it because their lives aren't good, so they pick on others to satisfy various ambiguous needs? It seems to me that some are just simply narcissistic dickheads who get some sort of asinine thrill from debilitating others, and it seems somewhat unlikely that you could get through to stubborn people like this.

EDIT: lol, seeing my post and my signature together really don't fit. I really don't get why this is getting to me SO much, usually I'm a strong person who can get called anything in the English language and not give a fuck, yet something as moronic as this is breaking me.

[BudderMC]

Originally Posted by Zaio

Not actually a bad idea Chip, I'm considering psychology as a career path so I might start getting an early education via books to learn about how to manipulate people in minor ways such as this.

usually I'm a strong person who can get called anything in the English language and not give a fuck, yet something as moronic as this is breaking me.

I feel like we're not supposed to use our knowledge of psychology for malicious purposes, even though manipulating people does have the potential to come in handy at times

And honestly, it's probably breaking you because it IS moronic. And then you get bothered by the fact that you're broken by something so moronic, which makes you feel bad... it's a vicious cycle. I don't really know what to suggest beyond just moving past it. People have already said (and you already know) that their life must be pretty damned terrible or boring to have nothing better to spend their time doing... keep reminding yourself of that fact.

[Hiems]

I used to get awful phone calls from a bully from my high school. The school was dumb enough to hand out booklets to all students, with pictures of ALL students + their addresses + their phone numbers. Fellow freshmen also received such phone calls from the same guy. Eventually, he was expelled from the school.

You seem like a grounded person, but I think this situation is getting to you because you didn't anticipate it would happen. The person was cowardly enough to call rather than say things to your face. I know it hurts, but those people are not worth brooding over. As for how to deal with this incident, time is the answer. I was depressed and annoyed many years ago when I received the phone calls, but now I just let it go.

You will find more open minded, educated people at college. Don't let ignorant, stubborn people get to you =)

[Zaio]

Originally Posted by BudderMC

I feel like we're not supposed to use our knowledge of psychology for malicious purposes

Noo! What I wrote down came out wrong, what I mean is I might start learning that particular part of psychology for incidents like this, only using it as a form of self defence, I want to be a psychologist because I want to help people, would be great to help the youth of the LGBT community too.

To all: Thanks for the support, you're right, it's just one of those things you have to let go. I do indeed believe this annoying me as much as it is because of the spontaneity.

Thanks again, really appreciate the support.