Gong to see a counselor, not sure if I should come out to them

You should tell her, if she can't work with a gay person, find another one.

 

Exactly.

Your sexuality probably has a large effect on your emotions, as it does with all of us. The problems that come with being a minority in this manner, they're things you want to get out and talk about. If you have an intolerant therapist, it's just not going to work and you need to find another. Plus, they're a shitty therapist when they're supposed to be non-judgmental and they hold things like that against you.

 

Definitely tell them, that's a priority. Do they have a website or anything? Some counsellors do, and they give information on what they specialise in, with sexuality often being one of them.

 

I'm sorry I don't have much advice for you about this, I just wanted to let you know I am in basically the exact same situation, so you aren't alone!
I live in the Midwest so being gay isn't the easiest thing and I am definitely afraid that if I tell my counselor about questioning my sexuality/gender identity it will somehow get back to my family and I'm just not ready to be out to them yet.
I have been thinking about recently coming out to my counselor so they can better help me cope with everything because I have a feeling they are part of what's causing my anxiety and depression.
I agree with @sohodreamer that you should try looking up some counselors in your area online because sometimes they have their specialties listed. Some even go do far as to state that they are LGBT friendly which might help you determine if coming out to them is what you want to do. Good luck with everything, I hope that counseling is able to help you with everything you're going through.

 

In my opinion, there is no point in even going to see her if you can't talk about the reasons behind your depression and anxiety.

Also, let me tell you that I'm a psychology major and from what I know about the counseling class at my university, LGBTQ issues are something counselors are trained about quite a bit.

 

Although I myself am in a similar depressed mood, I urge you to contact your counsellor and have a bit of a talk. Its gonna help a lot even if you yourself don't really feel much comfort doing so. But helps you sort out things.

 

The counsellor cannot help you if you are not completely honest - that includes being gay, things that might crop up you feel less than proud of - anything which might trouble you, make you feel a bit guilty, unconfortable.

As Chip says - a counsellor has to be non-partisan and if you sense any bias in any respect, ask for another one.

They are there to help YOU, not spread their own beliefs.

Good luck:smilewave

 

After I was sexually assaulted, and I went to see a counselor, I finally told her I was gay during one session and she took it okay, it could had been a lot worse. I agree with everything Bobbgooduk said, he/she can't help if you're not honest and he/she is there to help you, not spread their own beliefs, that's right.
Good luck!

 

I see a therapist and he is the main reason im more ok with my sexuality now...definitely tell them! You can even google online for Gay friendly therapists in your area..that's how I found mine!