I know that I am gay but lately I find myself looking at a woman and thinking she is sexually attractive. This confuses me somewhat. I feel that I would be happy if I never slept with another woman. On the other hand I have always found some pleasure in being with a woman. Some of my thoughts are that skin is skin and your body reacts to stimulus. I like being touched. I like knowing that what I do in bed pleases my partner. I know that I have thought of men while having sex with a woman with the exception of breasts. I do like women's chests. I think part of it is when I see an attractive woman in tight fitting or revealing clothing. On the flip side I really like hot men in tight fitting shirts too. I guess maybe I should refer the the Kinsey scale that people have posted elsewhere. I fall somewhere on the gay side but am not turned off by women. I am not interested in labels because I am who I am. My question is this. Has anyone come out to a wife or girlfriend and had to explain why sometimes they appear interested in women?
Many many many guys have thought that they were straight before they realized they were bi or gay, and have had attraction to women, and/or sexual experiences with women myself included. So you're definately not alone in that respect. A lot of gay guys also have a thing for boobs funnily enough . Then some guys are completely turned off by women, there's a very wide spectrum. Who we can really love and feel satisfied and happy with is another story though, thats the deeper question we're all trying to answer. I had a girlfriend that I had to break up with when I started questioning my sexuality. I personally couldn't bring myself to do it and kept trying to make it work with her though, I felt too guilty (she had a difficult life). That was very very difficult, probably some of the saddest times of my life. In the end it lead to a lot of unhappiness and she broke up with me. If you're in that position of having to explain your sexuality to a wife/girlfriend I suggest you just be as honest as possible as soon as you can. It will save you a lot of trouble and she'll be grateful for your honesty.
When I came out to my wife, it was difficult for me to explain why I was attracted to both sexes. it was obvious to her that I was attracted to women and I enjoyed sex with her (when she was interested in having sex). But her experiences in sexuality were always heterosexual and she couldn't fathom how a guy could be sexually attracted to both sexes. The Kinsey scale tells us that most people are bisexual to some degree. It really doesn't matter. If you like both guys and girls, you like both guys and girls. It may be upsetting to your wife or girlfriend, but that's another issue.
It's like Chrissouth says, it's sometimes difficult for partners to understand attractions, but I think that sometimes I don't understand why I like this picture or that. People for me a bit like pictures. I see something appealling and it doesn't matter WHY I like it, I just do. I am gay but I love women. I can find a man OR a woman attractive but not want to go to bed with them - beauty and presence have a lot to do with emotional attraction, but being attracted to someone does not necessarily mean a physical attraction. You have spent a number of years in a relationship with a woman - you are probably not going to "change" overnight and you will probably always be able to look at a woman and say "She's beautiful" - it's an objective appraisal (not objectifying). Your wife sounds like she is trying really hard to come to terms with this - she is making the effort because she loves you. That says a lot about her, but it also says a lot about you. (*hug*)