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Going in circles...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Calico, Aug 4, 2012.

  1. Calico

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    This may or may not be a long post.... If it is, please bear with me!

    So, until a couple weeks ago I had my sexuality all sorted. I was a lesbian and I was comfortable with it. Then, at the start of Term a new boy joined our class. Danny (not his real name), was funny, a little bit weird, and heaps of fun.
    Then trouble started. I wanted to be around him, didnt like other people talking to him that much, and I thought about what it would be like to be in a relationship with him.

    When I was away from him, I was perfectly logical. I had no overbearing desire of nearness. But I got very worried. What if I was bi? Straight even? What if all this gay stuff is in my head?

    Danny reminds me of a friend I had in primary school. They're both funny, make strange faces and have wrinkly hands ( no joke).
    I also felt similarly when I was first getting to know the girl who is now my best friend, because I so desperately wanted her to be my friend. And the crush-like symptoms are nearly gone now after a few days.

    But I'm still worried it might have been a genuine crush? What do you guys think it was?
     
  2. swimmingkevo

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    You might be bisexual. I see you label yourself a Kinsey 6 (as I label myself), but if your feelings toward this boy are sexual in nature, you might be a 4 or 5. You can still label yourself as a lesbian if you wish - but since you are experiencing these feelings for a boy, I wouldn't totally close yourself off from the possibility of a heterosexual relationship. Don't sweat the labels so much - just go with what feels right. :slight_smile:
     
  3. blightedsight

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    Focus on the person not the genitalia and this sort of stuff really doesn't matter:grin: