Ok, so i have liked this guy for a while and I am so close to asking him out, but today this other guy came into one of my classes to finish up a project. He was really good looking, but he acted all strait and everything (not flamboyant, like me), and i did not know he was gay until someone told me when i was talking to him. now, here's the problem, the guy i had liked for a while is kinda *flamboyant, and i was fine with that, but i want to be with someone more like me (not flamboyant(not that i have anything against flamboyancy)). The guy who came into my class was good looking, we got along, and he was not flamboyant. so now i'm really confused to who i really want:tears: . they are both really great, and good looking, but the guy i had liked for a while pretty much knows i like him (i just know), and so if i were to go out with someone else it would probably destroy him. . .i guess. What do you guys think: Play it safe(with the guy i had liked for a while), or take a risk( with the guy i had only known for 45 min, but is what i had wanted)? *No offense to flamboyancy
Go with the guy you've kown for a while cause we don't want a I'm No that Girl (song from Wicked) Situation
There's no-one but you who can answer that question. Though when you portray it as play it safe vs take a risk my instinct says to take a risk. Sorry, I'm not much help am I...
I'd personally go for the less flamboyant guy. But that's just my personal opinion... Just ask him if he likes you, and if he says yes, then see where things go from there. Sorry I can't be much help.
dont break the guys heart see how things go with him.....theres no reason to drop him all of a sudden
Gustav, Here's the good news, you have already answered your question. Follow your "gut" and go with "mr. less flamboyant" Here's why. The day you decided to come out was the day you threw "care" to the wind. You finally decided it was time to start living your life on "your terms". This is not to say at all that you took a stand to be "selfish". You took a stand to start taking care for you and your feelings. Ok........so consider your feelings here first, then make your move. You will make a much better partner for "another" if the decision to initiate the relationship rests well with you in the first place. Trust me, "mr. flamboyant" will be just fine. He's like a beacon, hard to miss, he will find a mate. There's one out there for all of us. Now........go get your Man!! :icon_wink Suede7