Why do I dislike women? Why do I care so much about what they think of me? Why am I so defensive towards them? I am a 23 year old guy who use to be comfortable around women and even dated them, but now I get extremely anxious when I am near them (almost agoraphobic). I have never had my heart broken by a woman or been involved in a traumatic incident. Also, I am unsure of my sexuality (straight or bi) and wonder if it has anything to do with this. Please help me to understand why I am this way. Thank you for your time.
Well, without more information it's hard to say. But if you were bi, I don't know why that would make you uncomfortable (in more than a normal sense, I mean) around women, since the idea of being bi includes still being attracted to them. When did you start to have these feelings of anxiety? And what was happening in your life when those feelings started?
I started having anxiety around women after I ended a 2 and 1/2 year relationship with my girlfriend at the time. I could understand being like this if a girl broke my heart, but it was the other way around. I guess I connect with men emotionally, but I connect with women sexually. I am not aroused by gay pornography. I am aroused by straight pornography and masturbate daily. Perhaps I am becoming desensitized towards feeling attracted to "real" women because of this?
