Attracted to Lesbians

[DragonBoy]

As you can see,I'm a guy who defines himself as bisexual. I love guys, I love girls. I REALLY love bisexual guys and girls.

However, I have never understood why I am attracted to the idea of a woman being fulfilled by another woman; particularly emotionally. (Not really sexual, since I do not find lesbian porn particularly appealing unless it is in my mind, where nothing is spoken and it is more gentle touching, just the look in the eyes and the idea of what is going on inside the minds. I guess the best, however weird way I know how to describe it [non-pornographic of course], would be the Bjork music video: All is full of love.)

Björk - All is Full of Love (Official Music Video) - YouTube

My attraction to lesbians has a sexual component, however it is far more than sexual; it is positively interesting and makes me feel (somehow) whole. This is what I find the most confusing.

Perhaps it is that the stereotypical idea of 'woman' is shattered, and I view it as a more integrated being (if that makes any sense at all...).

It is the only thing that I can never really get in a relationship I guess technically, unless the woman are themselves bisexual. So maybe it is the 'unattainable' aspect of it all...

Sigh... anyone else feels like this?

[DragonBoy]

Maybe it's more of attracted to the thought of lesbian relationships... hm...

[musikk021]

Originally Posted by DragonBoy

However, I have never understood why I am attracted to the idea of a woman being fulfilled by another woman; particularly emotionally. (Not really sexual, since I do not find lesbian porn particularly appealing unless it is in my mind, where nothing is spoken and it is more gentle touching, just the look in the eyes and the idea of what is going on inside

Well I don't really have an answer to your question, but to comment on the part you said above, don't base your idea of lesbian sex on lesbian porn. Even lesbians don't like lesbian porn; it's fake and degrading. You would think that we like it as long as there are a bunch of naked women, but at least for me, it has the opposite effect. It's not appealing at all, whereas watching a passionate love scene on The L Word is appealing because there's a storyline and an actual connection between the characters there.

The connection that women share with each other is beautiful and can be really amazing, so it's not strange that you would be attracted to that or the idea of that type of bond.

[flyinhernikes]

lesbian porn is gross imo. just no thanks lol, its all ott. (well most pron is imo).

im not sure what lesbians you are attracted to, butch/boyish looking ones? maybe, maybe not. or femme/girly looking ones? maybe, maybe not. or both?
not being rude or anything, but when a guy has expressed interest in me and later finds out im a lesbian he still tries to 'woo' me. im not sure why, but if i was more 'gay' looking he might back off.

however, you are not alone in being attracted to lesbians..... many men are.
many women are too :P
many people are, it doesnt matter XD

gay guys who are in relationships make me go awwww. thats not really attraction but i find it cute :3 being intrigued by relationships that are different to your own isnt anthing weird, i think its quite common actually.... well i hope it is haha.

perhaps thats what you mean? hmm. im not sure, im not really sure what youre looking for or even if this jumble of words helped lol. sorry XD

[Ianthe]

One thing you might consider is that thinking about lesbian relationships allows you to think about same-sex relationships without thinking about gay male relationships. This means that you can think about and even relate to the relationship without it having any bearing on you thinking about your own sexuality.

Before I was out to myself, some of my favorite books were fantasy novels (magical creatures, not erotica) that just happened to have gay men for protagonists. Human psychology is weird.

[sguyc]

Uh ya I feel like you. I love watching movies about lesbians and their relationships. For some reason I just think of lesbian relationships as very pure and it just seems like such a perfect "thing". I wish I could say the same about male/male relationships... I am still trying to appreciate the romantic aspect of those.

[DragonBoy]

Originally Posted by musikk021

Well I don't really have an answer to your question, but to comment on the part you said above, don't base your idea of lesbian sex on lesbian porn. Even lesbians don't like lesbian porn; it's fake and degrading. You would think that we like it as long as there are a bunch of naked women, but at least for me, it has the opposite effect. It's not appealing at all, whereas watching a passionate love scene on The L Word is appealing because there's a storyline and an actual connection between the characters there.

The connection that women share with each other is beautiful and can be really amazing, so it's not strange that you would be attracted to that or the idea of that type of bond.

Thanks. I know very well how faked almost all porn is. Thats why I have to retreat to my mind to find something more real haha. Especially the sounds in porn... ugh they just get to me, I hate it, I just like the idea of mutual pleasure. I would say yes, it has to do with the bond, the emotional connection that happens.

---------- Post added 17th Aug 2012 at 11:15 PM ----------

Originally Posted by Ianthe

One thing you might consider is that thinking about lesbian relationships allows you to think about same-sex relationships without thinking about gay male relationships. This means that you can think about and even relate to the relationship without it having any bearing on you thinking about your own sexuality.

Before I was out to myself, some of my favorite books were fantasy novels (magical creatures, not erotica) that just happened to have gay men for protagonists. Human psychology is weird.

Hm, I never thought of this in that light. It makes logical sense. Well at least as logical as the human mind can be :P. Interesting.