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guys: how do you meet other guys?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by chobbs, Jan 23, 2008.

  1. chobbs

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    online? at the bar? where?
     
  2. Ty

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    You can meet guys basicly anywhere, like you suggested, online, bar's, clubs ~ im only 15 though so what do i know? Im sure someone will come and give you a better answer than me :slight_smile:


    /Ty
     
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    I would like to know how others answer this as well!
     
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    Well - I've met most of the gay guys I know through various online sites. It can work if you're patient and painfully honest about what you're looking for. You have to be prepared to reject people, and to be rejected, because the volume of people online is HUGE compared to the number of people you'd actually run into at a club or somthing.

    I would think another good place would be gay support groups, or for young people their Gay/Straight Aliance at school - if one exists. It will happen eventually - don't give up hope!
     
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    Probably every gay guy I know, I met at Q-bar, the largest gay bar in Reykjavík.

    I like meeting guys at bars, that way the picking-up is a relatively painless procedure. The atmosphere of a bar is "akwardness-reducing" imo.
     
  6. You can meet other guys through a variety of mediums as others already said. Online, bars, clubs, groups etc. It's all about picking out the ones you could potentially match with from the rest of the people though. That's the hard part.
     
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    Friends, I've met heaps of gay people through them.
     
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    i dont know if this would help but i met my bf at school
     
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    myself - i've mostly met guys online. i have met very few gay guys in real life that ive liked. however, i feel that the relationships with the guys ive met in real life have been much more genuine.

    somehow it seems that the internet highlights certain aspects of a person, and you cannot know someone met there the same as you would in real life.
     
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    I meet them online, if some live near my place, I met one guy on myspace who went to my school which was awesome, that's the only way i cna meet guy

    Sometimes a guy wanna hang out but i said no cuz i dont trust him
     
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    The mall haha
    and also my friends knew other guys who were gay
    and introuduced us
     
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    You can certainly meet new guys through friends, but be forewarned that sometimes that can be awkward at best.
     
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    well, how do you tell a gay friend that you like him? and dont give me that crap, simply say it. its not that fecking easy ya know.
     
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    You have to find a moment to tell them. First they gotta be your friend, then when you're having a "together in spirit" sort of moment, then tell.
     
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    my best friend met his bf at da gym :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: