Am I bi gay or straight idk...I have dated two girls for a long time and fucked many girls in college. I like doing that but there is this guy I've done stuff with since I was younger like anal and blow jobs. After not doing anything for a year we had anal and it was good. I dont what I am and I need help please. Should I go to college and find a guy or find a girl for me? help.
how about not finding anyone and doing some thinking on trying to figure yourself out. sometimes if youre not sure of who you are and enter a relationship unsure of what you want from it then things can get messy (imo). you can sleep with men and women and whoever you like, if you enjoy sex with both you might be bisexual. think about how you feel when youre with a man or a woman is there a difference? relationships/sexuality isnt just about physical attraction and things that make you feel good, its about feelings as well. you might have feelings for one but no attraction you might have attraction to one but no feelings. you might have more feelings and attraction to one. e.t.c. no one can really tell you what to do or what you are, you have to figure it out yourself really. hope this helps lol.
Who are you attracted to? Your sexual orientation isn't based on what you've done or what people you've had sex with - its based on who you're interested in. What is your attraction towards women? What is your attraction towards men?
As per above, I think this is something that you need to figure out yourself. I know its not particularly helpful but it is the best way (again, in my opinion)!
maybe I'm bi sexual because I still think about having gay sex with certain guys but then again would prefer women if the chance was there. I fell an attraction towards both but still arnt sure. Back at school I want to find a guy but I'm scared because it's the first time I've tried that. I don't even know what to do in that situation.
There is not just 3 options, straight, gay or bi. Sexuality is fluid and though people to label themselves and others, there is more than just black, white and one shade of grey. Some people are straight but on occasion attracted to someone from the same sex. Some people are gay but on occasion attracted to someone from the opposite sex. Some people are bi, but bi people are not necessarily attracted to both gender to the same extent. Some bi people would be more attracted to men and some more attracted to women. So it is very possible that you're mainly straight but on occasion turned on by a man, and that's just fine. Now if you're very confused about it, try to ask yourself those questions : Who are you noticing the more when walking on the street, men or women ? Who do you fantasize the more about, men or women ? When you're watching at porn, do you focus more on men, women, both ? In your previous relationships, with whom did you feel the more comfortable on en emotional level ? In your previous relationships, with whom did you have the more satisfying sex ? You're not obliged to answer this questions in the thread, though you're welcome to do it if it helps. And keep in mind that it's fine to be who you are, whatever your orientation is. Take care, Cécile
