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JB75 · 17th Aug 2012, 10:13 AM

Hey, I think I could use some others' opinions. I've been chatting with a guy on a dating app for almost two weeks. I know those apps can be just about hookups a lot of the time but he's been a gentleman the whole time. He's asked me out to dinner this weekend and I've accepted. Am I being naive or can you really make friends on these sites? I'm 37 and been out for about 4 months. This is the first time I've met somebody.
Thanks!!

**Lexington** · 17th Aug 2012, 10:16 AM

I met a guy online once, about fifteen years ago. Not a dating site, but just playing online video games. We hit it off, and decided to try dating.

How'd it go? Well, he's still here.

If you met him on a dating app, then that's fine. Date him. That's how it's supposed to work.

Lex

**Chip** · 17th Aug 2012, 01:17 PM

In spite of the fact that most of the people on these apps/sites are there for hookups, there are the occasional exceptions to the rule. Sounds like you may have found one.

I'd say absolutely go for it, just go slow and don't get talked into anything you aren't ready for. I'll tell you, as someone who came out later in life, those first few same-sex dates, you can feel like you're 14 all over again, and it's easy to feel like you need to go along with whatever they want... but you don't, and anyone who genuinely cares about you won't push you if you aren't comfortable.

Let us know how it goes!!

everett · 17th Aug 2012, 01:19 PM

I say go for it! I wish you the best of luck! =D

JB75 · 18th Aug 2012, 08:39 PM

Thanks for the advice! I think it will be fun. I can definitely relate to feeling like a teenager Chip. Actually I didn't date at all when I was a teen so maybe this is just me making up for that. Hahaha. We're meeting tomorrow for dinner so I'll check back in sometime after.

JB75 · 28th Aug 2012, 10:47 PM

Wow, I never did give an update. So our first date went great. We've hit it off well and have actually been out three more times. He's a great guy and I'm really glad I took the chance.

arrow26 · 29th Aug 2012, 12:13 AM

Wow, nice!! Hope things continue to progress!

keep us posted.

**Eleanor Rigby** · 29th Aug 2012, 12:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JB75

Wow, I never did give an update. So our first date went great. We've hit it off well and have actually been out three more times. He's a great guy and I'm really glad I took the chance.

That's wonderful

I'm happy for you.

17th Aug 2012, 10:13 AM	#1
JB75 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Close friends and family Location: Alabama Posts: 28 Join Date: Apr 2012	First meeting Hey, I think I could use some others' opinions. I've been chatting with a guy on a dating app for almost two weeks. I know those apps can be just about hookups a lot of the time but he's been a gentleman the whole time. He's asked me out to dinner this weekend and I've accepted. Am I being naive or can you really make friends on these sites? I'm 37 and been out for about 4 months. This is the first time I've met somebody. Thanks!!

17th Aug 2012, 10:16 AM	#2
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 43 Posts: 14,008 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: First meeting I met a guy online once, about fifteen years ago. Not a dating site, but just playing online video games. We hit it off, and decided to try dating. How'd it go? Well, he's still here. If you met him on a dating app, then that's fine. Date him. That's how it's supposed to work. Lex

17th Aug 2012, 01:17 PM	#3
Chip EC Advisor EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: northern CA Posts: 8,649 Join Date: May 2008	Re: First meeting In spite of the fact that most of the people on these apps/sites are there for hookups, there are the occasional exceptions to the rule. Sounds like you may have found one. I'd say absolutely go for it, just go slow and don't get talked into anything you aren't ready for. I'll tell you, as someone who came out later in life, those first few same-sex dates, you can feel like you're 14 all over again, and it's easy to feel like you need to go along with whatever they want... but you don't, and anyone who genuinely cares about you won't push you if you aren't comfortable. Let us know how it goes!!

17th Aug 2012, 01:19 PM	#4
everett Heavy Metal Gay Head Full Member Gender: Genderqueer Orientation: Gay Male, Lesbian in a dress Out Status: Out to everyone, out to few about my gender Location: Maryland Age: 23 Posts: 458 Join Date: Aug 2012	Re: First meeting I say go for it! I wish you the best of luck! =D

18th Aug 2012, 08:39 PM	#5
JB75 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Close friends and family Location: Alabama Posts: 28 Join Date: Apr 2012	Re: First meeting Thanks for the advice! I think it will be fun. I can definitely relate to feeling like a teenager Chip. Actually I didn't date at all when I was a teen so maybe this is just me making up for that. Hahaha. We're meeting tomorrow for dinner so I'll check back in sometime after.

28th Aug 2012, 10:47 PM	#6
JB75 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Close friends and family Location: Alabama Posts: 28 Join Date: Apr 2012	Re: First meeting Wow, I never did give an update. So our first date went great. We've hit it off well and have actually been out three more times. He's a great guy and I'm really glad I took the chance.

29th Aug 2012, 12:13 AM	#7
arrow26 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Questioning Posts: 12 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: First meeting Wow, nice!! Hope things continue to progress! keep us posted.

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