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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by iGay14, Aug 17, 2012.

  1. iGay14

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    I am now 16 Im gay I haven't had any action of any sort, I'm starting to feel sexually frustrated by this there's not many people I know to "satisfy me" but I'm just getting very horny regularly thinking about what I want to happen but it's not going to happen at the moment. How could I stop this frustration and sexual urges? Thanks
     
  2. BudderMC

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    Well, first off, you're 16. You've got a loooong time to date and have sex and do all those other fun things. I wouldn't worry too much about it right now. Hell, I'm 20 and I still haven't kissed anyone, because I wanted to wait for a good reason to do so.

    Anyways, if you're feeling really aroused all the time, I'd suggest masturbating. It's a good, relatively quick way to relieve sexual tension if you find it building up. And hey, it can be fun too.

    If being aroused in public is a problem, then you've gotta think up ways to stop being aroused. Maybe consciously thinking of the most unattractive thing you can think of sexually might help. If you're wearing underwear with a waistband, you can always shift your "friend" to lay flat against your body, under the tension of the waistband. If all else fails, find somewhere to sit or face away from other people for a few moments until it passes.

    That said, you're a teenage guy. Teenage guys, straight or gay, get hard randomly all the time for no reason. Most people don't think too much of it (besides immature peers, but there's not much you can do about them).
     
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    Okay, I'll echo everything BudderMC said and also add...

    You're going through puberty. You're sixteen years old, and most guys around that age - myself included when I was your age - are craaaaaaaaaazzzzzzzzzzzzyyyyyyyyyyy horny. Like, seriously - I don't think I've experienced quite anything like the hornyness when I was sixteen years old.

    Masturbation is your friend. At sixteen I actually had a routine. I'd masturbate three times a day at a minimum, and most days several more times as well.

    The good news is this bout of craziness does pass. Things level out as you get older; this is what happened to me. As I've gotten older I've noticed my desire to masturbate has slowly started to decrease. What you're experiencing right now is just a crazy hormone driven - as a result of puberty - spike in your sex drive.

    You're perfectly normal. Don't mistake your lack of partner sex as the cause of your hornyness. You're perfectly capable of dealing with your own sexual needs and desires without having sex with another person. Don't let yourself get locked into a frame of thinking that you NEED sex from someone; you don't need sex from anyone. You're perfectly capable of taking care of your own needs and desires.
     
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    Welcome to being a teenager!

    It happens to all of us all the time, we all get very horny about 90% of the time. And every guy out there has ways to cope with his 'urges'.

    1. Masturbation. Jacking off. Whatever you fancy calling the one hobby every guy has shared at one point. If you're at home it's easy, go to your room and well...you know. If you're not at home...well then let's move on.

    2. Thinking of other things. It's a simple trick. If you're at school and out of nowhere get a boner, start thinking of random things. Baseball. Cows. Books. TV. It works. The sad thing is, I learned this little trick from That 70's Show.

    3. Adjustment. Like BudderMC said if you have the ability to, you can adjust your 'special friend' and the whole it-being-über-sensitive-when-you're-horny won't be such a problem.

    Don't worry, you're not the only guy who hasn't had much or any. I haven't had my first kiss yet(I've done other stuff though, but that's unimportant).
     
  5. NicoleV96

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    You don't really get it to stop, it's kind of part of growing up in a way. Everyone has a stage where they're like that, and it's usually anywhere between maybe 13 the earliest and 17 the latest, or more, but you'll feel that way probably on a daily basis and, it's probably not all that easy to just brush aside, but it's a normal part of growing up, and it happens. Best thing to do is to just think about other things aside from that urge, and I'm sure that you can distract yourself most of the time.
     
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    I am sorta the same way. I mean for me it started cause I used to read a lot of smut on fanfic and now I have written a fair amount of it. And so I do a lot of googling, mainly just to learn more about it because I have sorta done stuff when I was younger but not tons and not recently. So I ended up on websites like sexinfo101 and everything, and then I watched porn for like an hour and a half one night. In my head I justify doing all this for my writing, but really its probably sexual frustration. I have tried masturbation a couple of times, I need to try and do it more though. I don't know if this helps at all, but I sorta get what is going on.