How do you deal with homophobia without giving off the impression that you're gay?

Re: How do you deal with homophobia without giving off the impression that you're gay

For me everyone knows that I dont tolerate things like that being said, even if im not out to them yet. You can defend other people without them knowing, just find a reason that you believe in and tell them that thats why you're defending someone. Good luck!

 

Re: How do you deal with homophobia without giving off the impression that you're gay

I have had to do this for many years now.
You can never truely stand against it, without giving away some small hint.
What I try to do is ask questions like, "Why do you feel like that?" or "so, if it's not a choice for boys, why is it a choice for girls?" again, even these open ended questions could raise some doubt.

 

Re: How do you deal with homophobia without giving off the impression that you're gay

"That doesn't make any sense, people don't choose to be lesbian."
"Are you a lesbian or something?"
"No, I'm well-informed."

I'm sorry you had to be in that situation. I've been in similar situations and it just sucks. One time I didn't say anything and I felt guilty. The other time I said something and they said I was too sensitive. 9_9 People will be ignorant. It's OK that you didn't know what to say at the moment, it's not all on your shoulders to be the one who speaks up. Just know that there are loads of people who think what they were saying is garbage, and their outspokenness won't automatically change others' minds. What did that even have to do with geometry??

 

Re: How do you deal with homophobia without giving off the impression that you're gay

I've tortured myself by sitting and listening to homophobic slurs, but I've learned to laugh most things off :roflmao:

And I'm talking about grown adults who speak badly about homosexuality and well, because they're ignorant and sadly misinformed. Now, if they were to take the time they spend judging us, they could use that time and educate themselves about our amazing community. I love being gay, I enjoy standing up for what I believe in, but you have to pick and choose your battles wisely. Otherwise, you'll be wasting your time trying to get the people who are against us to see things from our POV.

The next time this happens, rudely...just kidding (casually) interrupt the conversation and be like, ”Perhaps, you should speak a little softer, you never know who can overhear you or who you're offending”, then walk away. I'm sure you're aware that they will not be the first nor the last to speak badly of us, you gotta grow thicker skin. So, that way if it happens again, you could've made some quirky sarcastic joke. It's better to laugh things off than to allow negative comments affect you.