I just got done talking on the phone with a boy. I asked him out just now, but he said no. He used to be a good friend, and he was/is gay. When I just asked him out and he said no, he said "awh, im sorry man. Im not gay anymore. I would if I still was though"... do you think he is really straight now, or he just came up with that because he didnt want to hurt my feelings?
I wouldn't bother to pursue him for a date. He is not identifying himself as gay or bi at the moment (for whatever reason) so it won't happen. If you could talk to him about his sexuality it could help him, but if he is in a denial state this will probably make things worse. There isn't really much you can do.
If you really like him, I wouldn't push the issue of asking him out, but instead talk to him about his sexuality. You can't just "not be gay anymore". It doesn't work like that. Paul is probably right - it sounds like he's struggling with his sexuality.
Just wanted to point you two to this thread http://www.emptyclosets.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6921 It's a follow-up to this thread
