For those of you who think you're going to be alone forever

I've always loved this video's take on this topic:

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I know how you feel. I wish I could just have a guy with me in bed to cuddle with. Although I do not feel alone I just want to experience that type of feeling.

 

I would love for that to happen to me, but I'm not sure it will.

Probably the biggest reasons I feel like that I'll be forever alone are that I'm very shy and have low self-esteem. I feel like nobody could ever like me since I'm too fat, not attractive enough, not muscled enough and too socially awkward, basically lots of self destructive thoughts that keep me from even putting myself out there. :bang:

 

There needs to be an app for smart phones, like the hook-up apps we have already, but it would be for people looking for someone to cuddle with for the night. They could call it Snugglr (because removing the last vowel from the names of websites/apps is all the rage these days). I'd use it.

 

Hah. That is genius

 

Yes it is, I would so use it, somebody needs to make this. Oh wait, I know how to make apps for smartphones, thanks for the idea guys lol

 

Everything that Cornella93 said.

 

Having shared a bed before, it sounds romantic, but in reality it goes something like this...

Me: "Bitch, move your ass over. You don't have to lay in the middle of the fucking bed, you have a whole side to yourself, you don't need to be all up in mine."

Him: "I don't like to be so close to the edge, I'm afraid I'll roll off in the floor."

Me: "Look, I have one ass cheek hanging off this bed already. If you don't move your ass over, you WILL be in the floor because I'm going to push you there."

Some other things you might look forward too.

- Him stealing the covers and leaving you freezing to death.

- Him having cold or hot feet, and wanting to put them all over you.

- His body heat suffocating you causing you to wake up sweating, as you realize once again he's in the middle of the bed.

- Arguments over sleeping arrangements, "Why do we have to sleep with the fan on?" "Because that's the way I like it." "I can't sleep with something blowing on me." "I can't sleep without the fan." He sighs. Audibly. Then you wake up in the middle of the night, burning up, only to realize the fan is off. His bitch ass turned it off while you were sleeping!

Seriously, when you aren't used to sharing a bed with someone that's what it's like. It's why I've sworn to myself that when I meet a guy and enter a serious relationship where he's spending the night regularly; I'm getting a king sized bed.

 

^ :roflmao: That can be so true!
Although it's not *that* bad for me and my boyfriend.. like 80% of the time we're cuddling or whatever and it's all great, but the other 20% of the time when one of us is a bit moody, or when it's hot or whatever.. oh my God I could just kill him!

 

Good idea. I have no idea how to make an app, but...
Too bad that domain already exists or I'd be half tempted to grab it...just because...LOL

I feel just like this ... especially for those cold winter nights (its deff too hot for cuddling in the summer though)

 

(sigh)

 

Oh boy! I have the thought that I'll be alone forever about every hour or so. On my worst days I think that waking up to the fact that I'm queer now gives me the opportunity to fail miserably at creating long-term relationships with people of two (or more) sexes instead of just one. I know that's pessimistic and not a productive way of looking at things but sometimes that's just where I'm at.

 

Well, for I feel like at least for the time being I'll be temporarily alone, because not a whole lot of demographics are interested in dating someone that is male bodied and starting transition.

After I transition I feel I have two options.

1. Keep my penis. Get attention but have it all be "chasers" who are just into me for a fetish.

2. Get bottom surgery and have no one be into me because I'm just not as much of a girl as ciswomen.

On that note, a couple nights ago I met a guy of a transgender dating site because of all these feelings. It was actually a really traumatic experience and I've felt really violated and well... scared to be honest. So for the moment I'm kind of okay being forever alone for once =/ Its certainly made me want to stop trying to find people on the internet...

 

i'm resigned to the fact that i will likely never find a life partner, but it really doesn't bother me. I am content to be alone

 

@Aldrick: This is so true.

Or you happen to be in a relationship with the person, who levatates out of bed in the morning, engulfed in angelic aura, and serenades the room in euphoric bliss...Meanwhile, you look like shit. Theres dried siliva on your cheeks, your eyes are bloodshot red, and your skin is dry and pale enough to land a role in twilight. And Mr. Flawless has the gall to try to roll you over for a kiss. You have to be the bad guy and sprint out of the room yelling "Dont Look At Me You Son Of A B*tch!!!!!"

Dont believe everything you see in romances (~_~). Or if you're lucky you both look digusting, in which he will try to be romantic and wake you up with a kiss. Then, again, you are the bad guy because you dont want to play Guess My Bacteria at six o'clock in the morning. I dont like my own mouth at the break of dawn, what would possess you... O_O?

I know, I know. "Well I'd hate to be Gen's boyfriend." But I am very open about this. I'm very affectionate. All I ask is for 60 seconds in the morning so I can go to the bathroom and at least look at myself first. We know I have issues :tears:.



Anyway, to the point of a boyfriend. You may never have even a boyfriend/girlfriend, but to be blatant, that is your decision. I know its hard to learn to love yourself. I know its hard to overcome social anxieties, and to take risks. But, you are not the only person on earth who doesnt look like a model, or is afraid to put themselves out there, or is a difficult person to deal with. We are not(usually) given a choice in our weakness and flaws, but it is our decision on whether or not we choose to wallow in them. I'm not saying that it will be easy, but it is pointless to stand over your obstacles and weep about how you cant overcome them. You have to take the intiative to help yourself.

You may not be able to fix all of the things you dislike with your body, but you have better have tried everything(Reasonably, of course) you can before, you accept defeat. If you dont have enough friends, and people dont reach out to you, than be the one to reach out to people. It's hard to start, but not when it really sinks in that you have literally nothing to lose. If the person you reached out to, rejects you, what have you honesty lost? You're truthfully the only one that will remember it tomorrow, or even care at all.

 

see, i've never had any of these issues when sharing beds! It's always been lovely for me =)