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My Mom!

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Zak, Jan 26, 2008.

  1. Zak

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    OMG, when i got home from school yesterday, my mom said "zakary James, i want to talk to you NOW!" at first it hought she found my...i might as well say it....porn stash like consisting of like 50 vids. so i was freaked about that, but she didnt . It turns out, there is a rumor going around my family saying im gay! She told me this and i like freaked. I hid behing my Humungoes defense walls like the trojans! I denied everything....i always acted a little feminine i said. gosh, after that car ride yesterday, i have been freaked! Im not ready to tell her yet. She is nice and will understand. She also said,"ill luv u no matter what zak" and i said "WELL U SHULD, UR MY MOM!!!" im still a little shaky when is see her,but im like freaked out that sum1 in ym family would say that! ppl at school would! ugh im mad ans scared at the same time! :tantrum:
     
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    well, at least now you know that she'll be there to support you, because she said she'd love you no matter what. the time may be approaching, however, when it would be best to tell, so she doesn't keep hearing it from other people. also, if you keep denying it, she might feel bad when you actually tell her, like maybe you weren't sure if you could trust her before. my advice, is maybe tel her in the near future..like maybe in the next month or two.

    whatever you decide, we'll be here for you!

    :kiss:
     
  3. Zak

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    AAWW!!!! LUV BIISME! lol, hmm....i might, she is rrly stressed tho, she had a fight wit my dad and she said "i carry guilt for kicking alex out, for noelle's anyrexia, for nik's problems, and nothing for Zak. He is a good child and normal!" If i tell ehr, i wont be normal. My moms cousin just died. Also, my great grandmother(HER GRANDMOTHER) had a heart attack and is in the hospital now. Also, my moms other cousin was diagnosed with bone cancer! ugh, now is NOT the time biisme...like NOOOOT. kk =) mby in a year, she might be over her cousin
     
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    i'm sorry for all the death and unfortunate circumstances honey (*hug*)

    but, i kno what you mean about being the "normal" child. she older sister suffers from depression, and my brother has asbergers (that spelling is really off). so, my parents sometime refer to me as the "normal" child. that's what made it hard for me to come out. but, hopeully when you come out, it won't be seen as a problem, and you won't be "abnormal".

    come out when you feel ready!! and, i hope everything with your family gets better.

    lots of love :kiss: :kiss: :kiss:
     
  5. Zak

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    oh snap. this has been on me before too except it only consisted of one partially downloaded film *cough* wasnt illegal *cough* but if she does just say, yes your may not like the timing but that's life for you. just tell her and say you dont want the family to know yet because it would be too harsh on you.
     
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    Your desire to protect your mother from additional stress is admirable. It also sounds like right now is a hard time, particularly while your great grandmother is in the hospital. But, please be careful that you don't get into a habit of not thinking about your own needs. Also, consider whether it would be better to tell your mom now and be fully honest with her, rather than have her potentially feel hurt in a year because you deceived her. She sounds like she will be fine with it. It also sounds like she may already know.
     
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    I think that there are always bumbs on the road to coming out and sometimes you drop straight off a cliff face and your time table is shot to hell...when you're outed I think that denying is the worst thing you can do unless there is some major issue that would make it stupid for you to do it then. But that's just my opinion.
     
  9. TheMusicMan

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    If she really said she'll love you no matter what, and rumors are already abound in your family, consider telling her. I doubt that she would give such an inviting comment if she weren't ready emotionally to accept whatever you tell her.
     
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    As the others have said, now probably isn't the best time, but you probably ought to tell her as soon as the situation clears up. If she's found certain collections of yours, there's a rumor about you, and you're more on the feminine side....if she doesn't already know, she suspects it. Wait until the family matters fade out, then speak up. Be confident and positive.
     
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    Believe it or not, perhaps her discovery of your stash and your denial of being gay might be adding stress on her mind. As your mother she is worried about you and wants only whats best, and she is not going to be able to provide that kind of love if she cannot know the real you. Your relationship with her can only be strengthened by your honesty.
     
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    Gee...Talk about being between a rock and a hard place!

    Maybe you should leave a magazine "accidentally" on your bed with a couple of scrunched up tissues? Wait, don't do that. not a good idea.

    Your mum will probably take it better from you then listening to the rumour of your relatives. That said, don't tell her until you're completely ready. She obviously cares a lot about you and she sounds pretty nice, reasonable, all the good things in a mum.

    Hope everything goes well for you (*hug*)