Okay.....soo....I love penis. But my few encounters with it have been so disappointing that I just don't know how to move forward.... Now some background is needed here: I moved to CA about a year ago, leaving behind a 7.5" dildo that I'd cherished for years. I would spend hours taking this dildo, and found myself feeling such immeasurable pleasure with it. Once I got things moving smoothly I found that I was capable of having the most mind blowing 'anal orgasms'. An electric wave of pleasure would pulse through my whole body that was deeper, more powerful and more encompassing than any regular cock orgasm. These would usually be accompanied by a bit of seminal fluid dripping from my flaccid johnson or, if I'd failed to evacuate fully, a full-force stream of whizz. My bum would also 'cum', a small amount of white....something (color varied depending on the cleanliness of my bum). Unlike a traditional orgasm I was able to continue playing and experiencing many orgasms without significant pause. Countless times I would end up laying breathless and quivering in the bathtub. I cannot begin to describe how badly I would like a real man to induce one of these, but it's never happened. I can't even bring them about manually anymore. A few months after settling in Cali I procured a new toy, but wasn't able to find one of similar consistency in my price range; I settled on a clear plastic 8" member that just doesn't seem to do the job. The few times I've used it were rather unpleasant because it's odd texture irritates my anus and the very hard material makes for a plain old unpleasant insertion as the 'head' bit of the member has no give whatsoever. It's also been quite a while and I seem to have lost the ability to relax my bum on command I'm really hoping that somebody here will have some advice and can point out a few things that I myself can do to increase the odds of an encounter leading to fun, pleasurable anal. I can't help but think practice makes perfect and plan on buying a downsized toy made of a more realistic material. I'll also try a few of the 'pain free anal' lubes that I remember having seen years ago. Another issue that keeps me from diving in is the fact that I always had to 'warm' the old toy before I would be able to enjoy it, preferring to use it in the shower where the constant running water and steam kept it warm even without direct effort. Sliding the thing in cold was downright uncomfortable, I just couldn't do it. I've always been concerned that this need for a 'warm dildo' would preclude me from enjoying a real cock, which may not be so warm once it's sheathed in a rubber; does anybody have any input regarding that? I thank you all for taking the time to read my rambling post; I've a lot of questions when it comes to this aspect of my sexuality. Thanks also to anybody who's got valuable input.
Oh, there's no such thing as a stupid question. However, your question is also rather specific, so not everyone is going to be comfortable to take a stab at it. Personally, I never have used any toy, or had any anal sex, so any reply I could give is going to be purely academic. as such, I'm hoping someone more experienced will come along shortly. I guess about the only thing I'm quite sure of is that the real thing is more likely to be warm than cold. Humans are warm-blooded animals, after all, and I'm presuming that if it isn't warm enough right after putting on the condom, there's ways of warming it with your hands or against your body that are a very pleasant way of warming it up indeed doing that could just be a nice part of foreplay. Otherwise, the common advice I see seems to be that practice does, in fact, make perfect. And that it's never a good idea to be skimpy on lube, nor on the quality of sex toys. So I do think getting something softer and more downsized is not a bad place to start!
Not stupid. I would have answered it before if I saw it before I read it completely and I see what you mean. I believe your instinct on getting a smaller toy with a more realistic texture is an excellent idea, as well as getting good lube. It's Ok to need it to be warm. I have some excellent quality toys at home and for me, all I need is to handle them a bit and they get and stay warm enough, but if you need them closer to body temperature you could sit on it (like a chick on an egg) for a few minutes before adding the lube and using it. You could also have the lube warmed up a bit. And yes, practice makes perfect. I think you are expecting too much of your body; apparently you won't get instant satisfaction like you used to, you need to go slower. Work at relaxing your sphincter muscles, slowly while getting (very) turned on with lets say, porn or dirty thoughts that work for you. Excitation plays a big part in pleasure you know. Another tip: don't insert it as soon as you think it may be alright. Wait longer, until you can't stand NOT to have it in anymore. The pleasure will be multiplicated right then. As for your fear of not being able to enjoy bottoming with a live partner.. well, you're going to have to find a patient man who don't mind lots of preliminaries. It shouldn't be too difficult because it does sound like a pleasant challenge to me so it should sound like that to other tops as well. Good luck and take your time!
Well for me it took awhile to get use to using a dildo. I started with a small one and worked my way up. Sometimes it takes a little while to relax the muscles, but now it's just a minute or two. Then it's shear pleasure. Also, be sure you are using the correct lube for the type of dildo you are using. The one that I purchased several months ago you are only suppose to use water based lube otherwise it will not slide smoothly. I have found that the cheep ones are exactly that, cheep, and don't always work well. Find one that feels as close to a normal as possible. The last one that I purchased the young lady that sold it to me said you can even put it in the dishwasher......like I'm gona do that, I don't think so! I usually put my in the bathroom sink and fill it with hot water to warm it up before I use it. Keep an open mined, when you find the right guy, it will be awesome. Happy warm sliding.
