it seems like no matter what lately, I just can't live somewhere normal. first my stepbrother relapsed and stole or sold (or both) anything he could get his hands on... then I moved in with 4 other people, 3 were friends of mine that I love, the other one a complete freak who couldn't stop exposing himself or trying to touch me inappropriately and made a complete disaster in any room he walked into. now I'm staying with my mom, stepdad, and 2 little brothers (I moved back to ohio) I start my new salon on monday, but I don't have any clientele yet, so its not much income for the next 6 months or so. my problem is that when my mom told me I could come stay with her, she had thrown out my stepdad, but then when she picked me up from the airport (after I had all my stuff shipped to her house) she told me that he is back. thing is, this is the guy who beat me until I was 14 and my dad got custody. (my mom is in complete denial). now, physically, there isn't much he is capable of doing to me, I'm much bigger and more fit than he is, and he injured his back to point where he can't even stand up straight. but that hasn't curbed his personality. hes a raging alcoholic, drinking a 24 pack of beer every other day on top of his pain medication, and is at home unemployed (because of his back) but he is constantly screaming at me, (yes, actually screaming) when I leave to go do someones hair (I still have bills to pay, like my phone, car insurance, gas...) or he will listen in on my conversations from the next room with the door shut, and loose his mind if I'm talking about something he doesn't like (such as today my little brother telling me he got beat up on the bus, and I told him that I could take him to school in the morning) or if the dishes aren't done when I come home he will yell at me, like I made the dirty dishes? I have no problem doing them though, just let me take off my shoes. the other day he told me that I invade his privacy because I'm around, and what if he wanted to walk around naked or watch porn in the living room >.> and that he didn't know he was signing up to see my face when he married my mom, and that I should go live in my car so he won't have to see me. I told my mom, and all she said was "he's a jackass" and while I agree, its not exactly changing anything I'm just frustrated, starting monday, I'll be working 12 hrs a day monday-friday and 8 hrs on saturday but until then, ugh, just ugh, I mean, last night in the middle of the night he unplugged my phone charger... in my room... 3 feet away from where I was sleeping, so that I would wake up with a dead phone.
Wow, that is a super shitty situation. In all honesty, I would have done something to further disable him at this point. Maybe give him a push down some stairs or something to mess up his back some more. He is absolutely horrible, how does your mom put up with him? I think you need to be more assertive with him, afterall you said he can't really do much anymore since he's smaller.
idk how she puts up with him, she kind of lives in her own little bubble I guess. as for hurting him, I mean, as someone who really had a rough childhood it took a lot of time and effort, and professional counseling to stop living my life as an angry violent person. sure its frustrating, but I don't want to hurt him. OK, that's a lie, I do WANT to hurt him, but that's not something I'm willing to do, or a position I'm willing to put myself in.
I suggest you get out of there ASAP. My father was just like this. There's not much you can do, except stay out of the guy's way and keep out of the house as much as possible. As soon as you can, get a place of your own, or stay with a friend. That's what I do. My condolences, and good luck to you! (*hug*)
