Hey! I'm Zach,15 since I was 12 I'd always think of my guy friends differently and didn't know why but, at 13 I began experimenting and I had little success but i got the jist of it. since I was 13 i also started to watch gay porn cause that's what really turned me on. I haven't had many girlfriends just like 4 and none were serious because I still thought of them as friends. This summer I started going out with my very close friend but, the whole time it made me more confused about who I am. These past few weeks my mind has continuously hammered my thoughts on whether or not I'm gay. And I've concluded I am. Now I have the urge to tell my best friend(a girl) about me being gay but, how do I bring this sorta thing up?And last year as a freshmen in my french I class there was this junior who was gay and out openly. This year we don't have french II together but I've developed a massive crush on him and I think he has a boyfriend how do I approach this thanks for reading!!!
You could start by talking to your openly gay friend? perhaps ask him how he came out and how it was? You couldpotentialy come out to him which is a start. Good luck
I guess I forgot to add we aren't really friends just I guess aquaitents( I think that's the right word). So ya :|
Just behave warm and friendly in your next few greetings with your openly gay acquaintance. Afterwards, whenever it's convenient, just walk up to him as though you're kinda sorta like friends already and strike up a conversation about French, the weather, or the LGBT presence on campus, or something. Next tell him that you'd like to meet more people like him, perhaps some of his friends. Ask him about where all the cute gay guys hang out.
First off, welcome to EC, and congrats on figuring yourself out. It's always a nice relief to have that sorted I think, just given your age, if you want to come out to a friend you have to be very prepared that that information might get spread around. That's not to say all kids your age are gossips, but well, some people might not understand the sensitivity of the issue. If you want to approach your friend about it, I think a good way to go is to meet her somewhere outside of school, but make it clear that you need to talk with her about something serious. If she's your best friend, she'll probably take it well, but setting that "serious" tone before the conversation might help to ensure she treats the information confidentially. As for the guy in your French class, I think it's possible you have a crush on him because of the opportunity - he's the only openly gay guy you know. Given that you're 15, you have TONS of time to date and have relationships, so I wouldn't worry about dating him. If you did want to get to know him (or see if he has any other LGBT friends, like Mango said), it's probably easiest to come out to him. I mean, not many straight guys are that interested in meeting a whole bunch of LGBT people, and if you hide behind that facade, it might raise some eyebrows, which could easily spread into rumours. It's much easier to come out to him, because being gay he should understand that you'd like it kept confidential until you're ready to tell other people, and then there's no doubt about whether or not you're gay, meaning he has no need to discuss it with other people. Good luck!
